Hi. I wanted to know how submissives feel when they're not getting enough regular attention from ther Dom/Domme in their life? Do you feel tetchy.. irritable... Please feel free to share your experiences. .. thank you.
Hi there
We are married to each other so it's not like he isn't giving me enough attention but there have been times where we haven't been able to do the full D/s play because of life getting in the way for one reason or another and then I feel like I lose a part of me somehow. It's difficult to put into words exactly. I find myself acting bratty to provoke him which I find amusing especially when we are out and about.
When we've finally had the chance again I feel on top of the world and so does he. It feels as though the balance is restored.
I get irritable for a while but then carry on with life and do things to try get my mind of it. He does always reply when he can so I dont worry too much. He is in a relationship so I have to be double pacient with him. (He is the Dom I am his sub) I am very good at being pacient and he always rewards me somehow. He is also pacient with me, when I am ready to give myself to him again he always makes me feel good. We've been mastering it for the past 3 years, we're getting better at it :)
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We are married and also kinda new to it although its always been my kinda thing but has taken 10years og being together to speak more openly about our sexual fantasies. I am very much a sub and i love it when he becomes dom however because we are still new to it lit doesnt happen very often and when it does sometimes he lils a little tame but we are working in it.
It does fustrate me a little because i dont get the satisfaction of being sub as often as i would like and i also tend to get a bit bratty to see if he will react. I find my self fantasizing about it more and more the less of it we practise.
But like i said its a learning curve for both of us.
God yes, I turn into a brat. I'm bratty anyway but the attitude comes with it. But for me I tend to go between irritable and lost, I'm more a little than a sub so feel like I've been abandoned and left to fend for myself, which I hate.
For us well I'm the one with submissive tendencies and I have the higher libido. So if she is not giving me any attention for any reason ( there's many as we have busy lives ) then I tend to act out scenes in my head. This tends to inflame my own sexy feelings and I just make it worse. I look at SM related porn. I even have a string of short porn stories that I write and add to.
My frustration is a sort of love and hate situation. When we do eventually get together I am so high on sexual energy we often have a great time. I can get a bit twitchy and my patience can be short but often I can ride it out. When I can't wait any longer then I resort to dropping hints by leaving sexy notes about or just giving her a strip tease.
We too are quite new to it. I've been having submissive thoughts for as long as I can remember but she is learning to be more dominating with me. We are finding our boundaries but its been going ok but slowly so far.
I have a huge toy box i've been adding to. She's only seen a quarter of what I've stored away. The anticipation of her using these items on me is really very exciting. In the next few days I'm going to show her the Elactrastim I bought from LH. I think she's going to love using it on me. Phew!
I'm definitely submissive, will do anything my Oh would tell me to do gladly 😉.
Im a bit bratty anyone (normally cause I like a bit if punishment now and again 😏) but when I'm not given any or very little attention I get needy and a bit depressed tbh. Being submissive feels me let go of my aniexty so that builds up too if o don't get any attention. Also cause I have a really high drive I very super super horny, like one touch or sexy comment from Oh and I'm wet.
Being told I'm not allowed to play til a certain time is amazing and denial of Cumming or play; but plain out not getting attention in horrible and to be honest "sucks"!
Sounds like you two are going to have some fun 😉 enjoy yourself xxStevie, hetro sub curious male wrote:
For us well I'm the one with submissive tendencies and I have the higher libido. So if she is not giving me any attention for any reason ( there's many as we have busy lives ) then I tend to act out scenes in my head. This tends to inflame my own sexy feelings and I just make it worse. I look at SM related porn. I even have a string of short porn stories that I write and add to.
My frustration is a sort of love and hate situation. When we do eventually get together I am so high on sexual energy we often have a great time. I can get a bit twitchy and my patience can be short but often I can ride it out. When I can't wait any longer then I resort to dropping hints by leaving sexy notes about or just giving her a strip tease.
We too are quite new to it. I've been having submissive thoughts for as long as I can remember but she is learning to be more dominating with me. We are finding our boundaries but its been going ok but slowly so far.
I have a huge toy box i've been adding to. She's only seen a quarter of what I've stored away. The anticipation of her using these items on me is really very exciting. In the next few days I'm going to show her the Elactrastim I bought from LH. I think she's going to love using it on me. Phew!
Thank you AlyBlue x