My early relationships were disappointing. Mostly guys who didn’t really know what to do or were too interested in their own pleasure to consider my needs. Then one time I frustratedly told my partner what I wanted and how he should do it. Suddenly I was enjoying sex and I’m sure that I made him a better lover.
When I met my now husband it was obvious from the start that he knew his way around a woman’s body so he satisfied me without instruction. As our relationship grew, one day during foreplay I told him to ‘finger me right now’ Another time I told him when to lick and then suck my nipples. After a time this became part of what I did.
Then came the time that he made demands on me. He obviously noticed my demanding temperament and one day when we were kissing he told me to suck him. This was quite a shock to me as no man had even demanded anything from me before. It was such a turn on and I immediately dropped to my knees and gave him what he wanted.
Since that moment we have both made demands during or prior to sex. It’s what I believe has kept our relationship so hot and our sex life so unpredictable and has led to some amazing scenarios
Both of us being demanding has provided open communication on what we want and also opportunities to shock each other to explore different facets of sex, such as pegging which I demanded after watching it in porn.
Do other LH people demand?
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Our relationship has recently evolved to where she is now in full control and we’re both much happier as a result.
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Yes, I’m demanding! Didn’t used to be with previous relationships, but with this one, it all started with a weak “keep doing that”. Boy, did he, and I had a massive orgasm because of it, which he loved. Over time, I got more bold, and now I’m all “Eat that” as I grind my pussy into his face. 
Mostly, being demanding gets me what I want. Sometimes it earns me a spanking (which is good as well). Occasionally, if I’m lucky, it gets me what I want and a spanking.
Husband is more demanding too these days, often just moving my body or taking my clothes off and working my body etc. He can pretty much do what he likes most of the time, and he does, rather a lot. I think I’m so lucky to be in a relationship where I’m so comfortable that we can behave like this and love it.
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I believe I have not been demanding and this has restricted our sexual pleasure. I think over over 30 years we have both not discussed this but tried to please each other but not asking/demanding each other.
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We were the same but for the best part of 45 years.
We would just guess at what each other liked with absolutely no help or hints whatsoever. In hindsight its remarkable that our relationship survived.
Now we talk all the time and it’s improved our relationship and sex life beyond belief .
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Not demanding enough, maybe this would help us!!!
@KinkyMira perhaps the way you began is the way I’ll begin…
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Yes @mrssaffa, it wasn’t even a strategy for me. It just felt good and I wanted him to carry on. The fact that he did so enthusiastically gave me confidence to talk up a little more.
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@KinkyMira totally, I’m usually thinking it, but too shy to actually say it! I was a bit louder this weekend (not exactly intentional but…) and his response was also very enthusiastic so I hope it has the same effect 
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Just recently, Sexterminatrix put my balls in my spiked ball stretcher, attached a leash to it, then made me do her doggy-style while she pulled me into her with the leash.
It was admittedly difficult to get a thrusting rhythm going, but the bite of the spikes on my scrotum preventing me from pulling out and the “trapped” feeling I got from it was absolutely f**ing delicious. I was rock-hard and came in next to no time, but of course I was a captive participant until she was completely satisfied.
Definitely on the Fave Activity list! 
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Maybe I’m not exactly demanding, but I’m certainly pleading enough to get attention. If I’m needing sex, I’ll approach one of my partners and pull my shorts down. My large clit makes arousal pretty obvious. A couple of times when I’ve been so turned on I was ready to cum, I grabbed GF’s hand and put it under me between my legs. Since she’s often forced me to cum in her hand in front of my friends, I have no problem demanding a couple of minutes of her time to relieve my needs.
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I tend to lean more towards what she wants though …… I get off on seeing her enjoy herself and if she needs me …… or someone else…… to do something I will do it no questions! Luckily (maybe) for me she is a little more “tame” than I, as this would lead to some interesting situations as I wouldn’t say no 
I don’t know as long as she is enjoying herself I am the happiest guy around