I think I'm a tad older than most of you sexy lot at 41 so have had more time to just accept what I am and be happy with myself. I never look at myself and think I look this or that and I do make a concious effort to keep fit and healthy but that's not a vanity thing it's a I wanna live longer thing! My OH is happy running her hands and lips all over me so I can't complain. I do not ever judge anyone on appearance, looks, skin colour or anything. I accept everyone for who they are. Everybody is beautiful in their own way!
I hate my body but I don't let it effect me in any way. My oh loves every aspect of me and you guys always give really nice compliments to my photo's so it can't be as bad as I think. This year I have been proactive for the first time ever and have lost a considerable amount of weight but there's still a huge amount to go. I just don't have confidence in many parts of me.
If I am honest, which this seems to be about - not overly happy to be honest. Not bothered enough to do anything about it though! I could lose 14-20 lbs easily and gain the same in muscle and it would help a lot, but it never really offends me that much, I just have rock-bottom confidence at the moment anyway. Maybe once I get my esteem up a bit the dynamics of the physical side of things will resolve better and I'll either be bothered or not.
I much prefer to be functionally strong and physically able than polished and chiselled. It seems a bit vain to me to seek the appearance of a strong body. If chiselled and beautifully formed follows from gaining more functional strength and fitness then that's just dandy, but I would never have a goal of looking so-and-so.
I'm not a shallow person I like to think, there's much much more to people than how they look, so it holds less importance to me. Then again, as a fat ugly ape-man maybe relying less on physical judgement comes naturally?
I really don't like me, and I'm constantly comparing myself to others. I just try not to think about it too much, people don't see me naked that often anyway
If my OH didn't come near me it was my body at fault and if we argued it was my body at fault, that was untill he told me he didn't care what I looked like but he knew I needed his encouragement and support to get my backside moving. I lost a stone and felt so much better its just a shame it's all stalled, I excersise every day and even though the scales are staying put the shape of my body is changing, I have dents where the fat has burned off and I love showing him the new ones I find lol. I'm covered in streach marks but they are silver now and my boobs look good when squished in a bra, my stomach is wobbly but where it would cover my c section scar when laying down but it is no where near it now, it still is the one part of me I really hate and do everything I can to hide it by wearing control pants almost every day, but I don't cringe when OH touches it now like I always used to.
Oh I tried everything to stop stretch marks when I was pregnant with my twins but even though I had a small bump and they were 7 weeks early I still got loads of new ones!!!
I used to hate the way my body looked.....but i think as iv got older.......and especially in my thrities, iv just developed this huge confidence about the way i look and im a whole lot happier with my naked self. Im a size 10/12.......and i suppose the only thing i do have a bit of a hang up about is the huge c section scar i have...so i dont have a perfectly flat tummy........but apart from that im quite happy to prance around with nothing on.....and love parading around in underwear.
I have curves in all the right places, small but perfectly formed boobs and a very grabable ass..........a sexy womanly figure......id never want to be too skinny.
My oh loves my body, scar and all...and finds me sexy with or without clothes....
Overall Im a happy and healthy size. I think the only thing i have always wanted was a smaller waist but hey...you cant have everything!!!......
I'm not very confident about my body in general but i am with my girlfriend and as she's the only one who gets to see it naked then i guess all is fine! She doesn't mind a little bit of flab. We're both in our 30's so things beginning to sag slightly but i love it! x MC x
I am happy that i am not carrying too much excesse fat, but would love to have some more muscle definition, just too lazy to go to a gym External Media ah well
join the club.....gyms are so damn boring...........just cant get motivated either to go.....i have a power plate at home..........vibrating the fat away is the way forward....lol
I am happy that i am not carrying too much excesse fat, but would love to have some more muscle definition, just too lazy to go to a gym External Media ah well
join the club.....gyms are so damn boring...........just cant get motivated either to go.....i have a power plate at home..........vibrating the fat away is the way forward....lol
i went to that flabeloss thing that is like toning tables.. bit weird.. personally i like to shagg it off ;) xx
I am personally not particularly happy with my body naked. I like the act of being naked and how free you feel when you are naked but I don't feel I am particularly attractive. I have poor posture and i'm relatively skinny.
These are things which I am working on though. I am confident in my own body in front of others but that doesn't mean that I like it. Hopefully one day I will.
I am happy that i am not carrying too much excesse fat, but would love to have some more muscle definition, just too lazy to go to a gym External Media ah well
join the club.....gyms are so damn boring...........just cant get motivated either to go.....i have a power plate at home..........vibrating the fat away is the way forward....lol
i went to that flabeloss thing that is like toning tables.. bit weird.. personally i like to shagg it off ;) xx
Perhaps I can recommend a rather good 'workout video' then?External Media
I wouldn't let you take it from the 2nd drawer down close to the computer desk on the right, the one with all the other electronics in that drawer. Unless I wasn't in, but I usually am except for tommorrow between the hours of 11-17.30. I'll never let you take it... but if you do can I have a copy of 'em?
I love my naked flesh now, but only because I see the fascination and lust in my boyfriend's eyes when he looks at me. I used to be about 4st heavier, and have gradually lost the weight over the last 4 years. I have silvery stretch marks across my bottom, my inner thighs, my breasts, and on my 'love handles' too, and in some lights they look like crepe paper.
I try to always remember that whatever I may feel like I ought to compare myself to from media models etc is not really as we see it, and watching porn recently I realise that many women who are in the films and videos (esp on amateur sites) are all subject to the same process ageing and gravity as I am. When I feel good I pull my shoulders back, smile and feel like I'm very sexy, and when I'm having a bad day I'm slumped over and frowning, and the difference in the way I look is incredible.
I look at my boyfriend and I think that he is incredibly sexy, just to look at him naked is a super turn on. But reality check/comparison makes me realise that he too has stretch marks (from getting too tall too quickly), and blemishes, and all sorts of little marks and scars from just living his life. It gives me pleasure to look at him naked, although he is not perfectly airbrushed, nor am I.
A man that looks feminine or androgenous isn't considered sexy, and so why should a boyish looking girl be considered the same? I like to look at pre-Raphaelite beauties to keep my chin up....
