Been out of the ’ dating scene’ for a long time (15+ years, yikes) possibly met a lovely man, online, notet in person, yet. He’s very hairy. I’m not but perhaps need some help. Quick trim/ shave, help!
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Hey @SxySadie! Exciting times getting back in the dating game - it’s a minefield out there! Are you asking for advice on how to trim/shave or just whether you need to?
Personal grooming is a complete personal choice, so you should go with whatever you feel most comfortable with. Please don’t feel like you have to shave just because it’s the “norm”. People will have different preferences but ultimately you should go with what you like on you.
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Hi @SxySadie, welcome 
I would do whatever you are most comfortable with, if you prefer to trim or shave then do, but if you prefer to keep things natural then that’s fine too.
Lots of people do shave or wax, I never did until recently and that was only because I thought I was the only one who didn’t shave! I now vary between natural, trimmed or partly shaved depending how I feel. You shouldn’t feel like you need to change what you usually do because you are meeting someone new. Just be yourself and have fun 
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Haha bit of personal opinion there. I’m not going to not go near it if it is not shaved, but find it better to touch and go oral when shaved, but that’s my opinion.
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Sorry if this comes across as blunt, but why do you feel that you have the right to tell all women what to do with their own bodies? It’s fine to have your own preferences but you specifically directing what women should do is just not cool. We do not exist just to satisfy the aesthetic preferences of men.
It’s also not cool to shame others preferences - all people are real people.
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I find women with hair or slightly trimmed more sexier than shaved, yes shaved looks good too but like others have said don’t feel like you have to do what others do, do it for yourself weather that’s shaved trimmed or leave it.
Good luck with the dating.
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First off wasn’t shaming anyone have nothing but respect for everyone. Not telling anyone what to do not my problem edited by mod But yeah never any disrespect from me
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Wax it or shave it nothing there is nothing more beautiful
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@SxySadie Firstly welcome back to the dating scene. Super awesome that you met a guy! Very happy for you on that.
Definitely not everyone shaves/trims but many also do. Even those who do often may not do so regularly if they aren’t regularly participating in sexy stuff.
For me personally, I prefer shaved or trimmed. Haven’t experienced a woman with a full on rain forrest but my first GF had kept herself longer trimmed. Not crazy but long enough that there were some cute & fun things I was able to do that I couldn’t if she had shorter trimmed.
The big reason I enjoy her at least being trimmed is it’s less likely I’ll need to pause mid oral to remove a stray hair/hairs from my tongue.
I’ve tried ignoring the stray hair on my tongue before so as to not interrupt her path to orgasm, but I almost always find that if I ignore it, it will work its way to the back of my tongue and start to try to climb down my throat.
Kinda awkward to start making hacking and gagging noises mid oral and then also need to take a longer break to fish the hair out lol
I find womanhood looks sexier trimmed or shaved. Landing strips or other patterns are sexy too because it shows she’s trying to be sexy which is always a turn-on.
I personally keep myself trimmed & shaved. That’s probably mostly because I’ve been watching adult stuff since I was a teen and all the guys are shaved.
Though shaving does make many things easier and cleaner (condom wear, chastity wear, her giving me oral, etc…)
So that’s my two cents. Hope all goes well for you and your new man! Good luck! 
Edit: Both women I’ve been with were trimmed. Haven’t personally experienced fully shaved. That’s probably something I think I’d like because of adult films.
Still looks sexy though even though I haven’t been able to experience it. Would be awesome if my OH ever deciced to give it a shot, even if at least once 
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Mate your really bringing up some things that are going to push people the wrong way. Let’s try and keep things adult. You have an odd way of turning an apology right back into another dig.
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@SxySadie I’m glad you’re back in the dating world! I haven’t made it back there yet haha.
I 90% of the time get a Hollywood wax, but obviously that can’t happen just now so I just kinda keep it trimmed down a bit. Shaving does not agree with me down there at all. I’m gonna say that the majority of people probably do at least keep things trimmed these days! But like most others have said, it’s completely up to you what you feel comfortable with 
@smithjoshua570 I’m sure you probably didn’t mean to come across as offensive, but you have. There’s a way of saying your opinion on the forum, but you’ve taken a dig at a load of us that prefer to keep everything bald. It’s my body and if that’s what’s suits it, it’s my choice and no one else’s.
Next time have a little decorum and think before you write words on here.
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I normally get a bikini line wax to tidy up the edges, I haven’t been shaving or waxing myself regularly in lockdown. It has been nice not to worry about it and save spending money but I prefer how I look when I do wax. Wax booked for the end of April! 
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I consider myself to be a ‘real man’ and I much prefer my wife shaved.
What exactly do you consider to be a ‘real man’?
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The guy I’m talking with much prefers natural so I’m letting it grow and do it’s thing. It’s easy and tugging on it can be fun!
I love how it feels bald, everything is so sensitive but the upkeep is a pain and I’m not fussed enough about it so do it regularly. It’s an occasional fun treat for me, no-one else.
It’s also not thick enough for a landing strip or anything similar.
@SxySadie do what makes you happy!
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Male here who prefers natural/v slightly trimmed. For me there’s nothing sexier than catching sight of some hair downstairs when the underwear comes off. Also like the sensation during sex. Yes, the odd stray hair during oral can be an irritation but for me it’s outweighed by the positives.
Appreciate this is just one man’s opinion and it should entirely be a woman’s choice on what she’s happiest with for her body. I do get impression that contemporary porn and programmes like Naked Attraction (where virtually everyone is fully shaven or waxed) have a bit to answer for in making having hair down there seem unusual and an outlier when it’s perfectly normal and sexy. Nothing wrong with being shaven or waxed but no-one should feel pressured into it
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My personal preference is obviously full hollywood/brazilian, can be shaved or waxed. Obviously NOT my call, but it does seem to motivate me more when its generally tidy down there, so is a win win 
Whatever makes you comfortable. I didn’t start trimming until well into marriage. OH was shocked that I went ahead and did it, but now she loves it. Only did it because makes me feel better about myself.
Enjoy the dating 
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I think it’s all down to personal preference! I personally like everything to be clean shaven down there, but that’s just how I like it!
I would say though that I think it is considerate to keep the hair down there at least tidy. I do struggle a little if a partners hair is left completely wild! 
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@SxySadie . I really hope your return to dating goes really well
As a hetro male, I prefer women completely buffed , but there are such a varied range of preferences.( as there rightly should be )
I would suggest to take the middle of the road view and go for a very tidy trim. If nothing else it suggests you take time for personal grooming.
I’d like to think, who ever you are sharing time with will appreciate you and every effort you have made. I hope they make the same effort.
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