My missus has enjoyed being handcuffed and basic tieing up....not done much else although she enjoys me holding her hands down when I do her from behind etc
so where do I take this next...I saw this and put it on my wish list...any other suggestions?
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26537
maybe a paddle ?? Any other suggestions, not sure she wants hard dominating quite yet...but you never know!
I would say that your first foray should be something that's not too overpowering or scary. You can always build up to the more extreme stuff later. Personally I'd suggest some of the Lovehoney Tease Me range or the Fifty Shades if you prefer those colours.
A kit like these :-
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=25727
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26083
or some of the range in separates is available in the 3 for £30 at the moment, such as :-
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21800
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21798 (this is gorgeous and a complete blackout)
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21801
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26079 (comes with a freebie atm)
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26078 (also come with a freebie atm)
Dominating is not so much what you've got, but how you use it to make the other person feel dominated. You might both want to take 10 minutes to get "in the zone", you to be dominating, she to be dominated.
Having said that, we have a ridiculous amount of kit, but this one probable gets most use, seeing it is just there under the bed the whole time
Sum Sub wrote:
Dominating is not so much what you've got, but how you use it to make the other person feel dominated. You might both want to take 10 minutes to get "in the zone", you to be dominating, she to be dominated.
Having said that, we have a ridiculous amount of kit, but this one probable gets most use, seeing it is just there under the bed the whole time
I love this being at the mercy of Mr C gets me in the mood. Works a treat as a sub and a blindfold also heightens the senstations of not knowing what is coming
Things like this need a lot of discussion, ask her what she wants. Do you spank her? If not a paddle is probably not the way to go, you don't know she'll like it. Would she like nipple clamps? Being spread out? The fifty shades of grey hard restraints kit is awesome and comfortable.
But as I said, bondage is something that requires a lot of comfort and trust, you need to talk about it and understand what you both want and your limits, look through lovehoney together and see if anything strikes her fancy. Make sure you have a safe word whenever you're restraining someone just in case.
The key to domination is trust and increasing in small increments. If you just run in and pull a gimp mask over her head and strap her face down to the bed she's probably going to get put off.
Have a couple of sessions a week, and each time add a new twist to it. So if you've only pinned her hands down so far get some cuffs, then try cuffs and a blindfold, move up to an under bed restraint http://www.passionbay.com/bondage-18/restraints/sex-mischief-bed-bondage-restraint-kit.html
Keep watching how she responds and if she doesn't like something take a step back. As she gets comfortable you can move on to a ball gag and some gentle spanking/whipping/flogging. The restriant you linked is quite confing so it might freak her out as a first try, but definitely once she's getting into the swing of it that or a restraint bar are a great toy!