I’m sure this has been talked about hundred of times, but in your own experience, what has helped you last longer before cumming? Feel like I’m not lasting as long as I use to. OH says she has noticed but didn’t want to say, until I had asked her. Sometimes it ruins her fun. Do delay creams make a difference? Been considering trying the famous blue pill, but don’t want to rely on it.
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I think there are multiple threads on this and it’s the great question for us blokes.
If we want an extended play session where climax could do with being delayed I use this stuff - Spray. I was sceptical when I bought it and didn’t expect much but it does work. I have found that you need to put it on 10mins before anything kicks off and then give your little soldier a wash as it tastes absolutely disgusting. Once you are prepped then you are good to go.
Alternatively we also use these - Delay Condoms. I know a lot of people don’t want to use condoms but we will have a good play and then pop one of these on. I normally have to remove it at some point just so you can finish off.
These are now my two things to go to as they work for me when you want to channel your inner porn star and last for ages.
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There a durex brand of condom with a delay effect I’ve used before that I’ve found did help me last longer, can’t remember the exact name of them. Maybe these ones: durex
I also have used cock rings, my favourite is this one Tracey Cox cock ring.
Lastly, I’ve found that if I get head before penetration I last longer compared to no head.
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The ESX spray that someone has already mentioned. That in combination with a cock ring made me last about 3 times as long as without.
I was skeptical about that spray but it really does work. It varies per person but for me I only needed 2-3 sprays an hour before and so the bottle will last ages.
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I would highly recommend the Lovehoney podcasts, especially S1E37. You can access it through Spotify here.
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There is a spray called study 100 that lovehoney used to sell, its brilliant and as others have described you spray around 3-4 sprays and the tip of your penis about 10 mins before the action and you can then go for upto an hour sometimes more! Now they don’t sell it anymore but they have got a new spray called tauro extta strong, its currently £19.99 and works exactly the same. If you want to go for ages then thats the easiest way, just keep in mind you loose some sensitivity so don’t put to much on, my advice would be start with a couple of sprays and then work you way up until you find the sweet spot that works best for you.
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Here’s the soundcloud link so you can listen to it in your browser. 
S01E37 How Can I Make Sex Last Longer
Edit: Turns out you don’t need Spotify to play that first link, it works pretty much the same as the other one. 
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My biggest tip would be to focus on your partner’s pleasure first and foremost. You want that at the forefront of your mind. That doesn’t mean a guaranteed climax per se, but you want to make sure every moment is giving them pleasure, with an orgasm being a juicy little cherry on top.
Foreplay is also one of your best friends in this regard. Giving you a wide spectrum of ways you can work them and touch all the juicy spots in tender, loving ways, without getting too lost up in the storm of the moment, with thoughts like ‘being deep inside them’ - ‘sliding in the warmth’ - ‘feeling every stroke/thrust’ - Sometimes it can be something as simple as looking at your favourite part of your partner’s body and realising how close it is to you that can trigger your orgasm.
Condom use can absolutely work, even in a placebo manner. Ultimately it’s like having a suit of armour to match your sword. I saw someone above recommended the Durex Delay Condoms but I’d have to strongly suggest you don’t, unless you’re climaxing within a minute or so and even then, they can be boner death condoms, so maybe try some with some self-loving first, before working them with a partner to see how you respond to them.
Going back to that point on foreplay, if you find yourself coming close to your orgasm before you’re ready, pull out and move back to foreplay. You can either use your fingers to do what your ol’ boy was working before, whilst your lips and tongue do something higher up. When you feel cooler, transition back to where you were before. You may still go quite quickly, but rather than orgasming and getting hit with serotonin, leaving you wanting to cuddle & snooze, when you could be turning up the heat some more. Vibrators are incredible in this department, so figure out what they like most and go with it (do they like it better internal or external? Same question applies to a variety of genders).
Now if you’ve already climaxed and you’re looking to get back into action, consider some toys use and a variety of play. Whilst you’re working them, try to focus on the hottest things on their body that you love and adore, along with your favourite elements or themes of sex in general. Does it make you feel rock solid at the thought them using your face as a cushion? Maybe you get turned on just holding them tight as a spoon … Try to think about that whilst keeping your hands busy, stroking, caressing, just working to make them feel amazing. Lean back into kissing when you can and you’ll be surprised how quickly your boy is ready to go again.
Give some of those a go first before you hit up the pills and don’t be too hard on yourself (ironic). Some of us have gone from the 5-second wonder, to marathon runners. You’ll find yourself going a lot further as your confidence builds and you realise you’ve been a stud muffin all along.
Good luck o/
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Hi I have experienced similar events some time ago and I found a book to be useful. It explains how you can do simple exercises to strengthen pelvic muscles to natural delay climax. The book is:
The Multi-orgasmic Man
Good luck and I hope it helps. 
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I know your topic is about endurance not lasting as long does anyone know what the opposite could be caused by my husband takes a long time to come he really enjoys it so do I don’t get me wrong and he always comes I don’t often hear of people saying my husband lasts too long in bed just wondering if anyone else has experienced this cheers
If you find that the condoms or sprays don’t work for you, try a extender; the last one we tested was about 5mm thick on the shaft and I defy any man not to be slowed down by that!
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I use the exs delay spray and find that works well , usually 4 sprays and leave it for 30 mins and it works a treat every time . Alternately i find trying to do the alphabet backwards helps as I struggle to get past X 
so it gets me thinking in my head as a distraction lol there is also durex delay comdoms that are quite expensive but they do work !
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Ah the good old counting backwards from 100 / alphabet. Have done that a few times, then the OH thinks I’m not enjoying the fun. Lol
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