My partner takes a long time to reach orgasm. This wasn’t an isssue at the start of our relationship but now, as soon as she starts moaning like she’s almost there I’m done and i can’t carry on after. Any ideas on how to either last longer or carry on once I’ve finished. Rings cause me too much discomfort and I’m concerned delay creams will stop her from cumming at all. Cheers happy helpers. X
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I know it’s not the same but could you use a delay cream and pop a condom on? The two together may just help you out.
OH has a few tricks, he lasts ages and never really lets on but I’ve noticed a few things he does to help as I am like your OH, despite him lasting longer than average it’s still sometimes not long enough for me.
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he will edge himself while stimulating me. So I’ve noticed he will slow right down and sometimes stop but still be grinding or using his mouth on hands on me to keep me going while he recovers a bit before keep going. It’s unknown to me if he uses Kegels in this time to delay ejaculation but I’ve heard that’s meant to help too.
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we use condoms mostly for birth control but on the odd occasion he’s been naughty (we are prepared for kids it’s just we aren’t actively trying yet) he has cum quicker and he’s said the condoms do help him last longer.
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he will have one out earlier. This is probs the most reliable, the longest times he’s lasted have been when he’s already done a load earlier.
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delay sprays help if you get the timing right and dosing right. But the above seem to work more reliably. We rarely use them to be honest.
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if all else fails he has no problems grabbing a toy and finishing me off, he seems to enjoy watching it to be honest, so don’t be afraid of using your teammates. I will sometimes use them during if I know I won’t finish before him that day.
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gives me an orgasm in foreplay. It’s easier to cum the second time so he might use the wand or womaniser on me to warm up and if I orgasm from that then it’s easier to cum a second time.
I hope this helps 
I’m sure others on here who are far more experienced will have great tips too.
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@mrssaffa gives some good suggestions.
Certainly, a little self pleasure earlier in the day can help a lot.
And maybe we all focus a little too much on the end result and how long it all takes, be it too long or not long enough! You may want to spend time doing different things and extending the pleasure that way.
As @mrssaffa says, toys can help and personally, watching your partner in pleasure is truly joyous. We sometimes play the 3:1 rule, as in she comes three times before I do. Her orgasms can be from oral, toys, fingers, self pleasure, anything but PIV until the final act.
And don’t be shy to tell her. After 25 years, kids, the usual ups and downs of life, one look at my wife’s body….well, there’s no shame in that.
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Maybe when your done you can switch to some oral play to help her finish or use a toy… or alternatively use a toy first so she can get warmed up and then you might climax together 
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I’ve bought the xls delay spray from love honey as way to last longer only because our love making is very rare in between kids and latest has been 2 years. 
hoping for some fun this Christmas fingers crossed so will be purchasing another as I know I will not last long after such a long time. I’ve heard of Stud I think it’s called which has Lydocaine (excuse the spelling) as well as condom that helps with this also.
Try a sleeve/extension, slows things down a lot and she might just like the increased size…
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This stuff - EXS Delay Spray - is unreal.
If you want to release your inner porn star then give it a go.
If we are going to have a long session then I will spray some of this all around the head and then leave it for about 5/10 mins and then wash it off. You will have to wash it off as it tastes absolutely disgusting. After that you are good to go.
Sometimes its actually quite difficult to finish off but you can have a great session.
I also recommend the EXS spray as already mentioned. Amount you need varies from person to person so find what works for you 2-5 sprays. I spray head and rub some around my balls can leave as long as 15-30 before deed to get a good numbing. If your partner is going to go down on you then I’d wash it off as the taste is not nice and also remember to wash your hands otherwise your partner with get desensitised and last even longer.
Good luck
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I recently purchased the new durex mutual orgasm condoms and they super did the trick! Thanks everyone!
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