Blueeyes82 wrote:
Erectile Dysfunction issues can be pschological, if a man can maintain an erection during masturbation or wakes up with a hard-on but can not fully erect during sexual intercourse with their partner, then the chances of the ED issue being Psychological are pretty high.
Main causes to the psychological ED issues are:
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Depression
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Relationship issues
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Anxiety
I didn't see the original thread or I do not know your full history but why did you delve into porn so hard (no pun intended), what drove you to that? If you can work out that issue, then you are onto working out why you are not full sustaining an erection. It could simply be that your mind needs to recondition it's self to perform with human interaction, rather than visual TV types.
Good luck x
The answer is fairly simple for that, I have a strange (not violent or sick) fetish which I ignored for most of my life. Then after a long time without a relationship, I started embracing my fetish. After I started this I wasn't far away from being able to climax just from cleaning my cock in the shower. I then kept enjoying my fetish and added sex toys and was enjoying whole new levels of pleasure. I did eventually start going through the desensitisation phase when I returned to being normal after a while still getting pleasure with toys and fetish based porn.
I know that this sounds similar to how drug addicts get addicted. If you're wondering why I didn't see the signs, it's because I felt like I was just getting the same pleasure people in a physical relationship get without the need for another person. So I had replaced relationships with a fetish and a load of sex toys.
After I had sex after a break of many years, I found it difficult to get and stay hard, and I was glad when I had finished, but it left me wondering why I wasn't really turned on when I got to put an end to a long time without sex. It wasn't long before I had come to the conclusion that it was down to how I got my pleasure.
For the last two months I have been avoiding all kinds of porn. Last week just before I was going to have sex again, I felt cold and flacid. I tried to get hard with my hand without success, but I looked at my old material on my phone and got hard again pretty easily. I decided to have my phone ready during sex this time in case I needed it. When I had sex later on, I started with the same issues, but after I started foreplay on her I was then rock hard, and when I had sex again that night, it went well too.
Once the night was over I was glad that I'd had successful sex twice. I still don't know exactly what my problem was. I was convinced that it was the porn, but it doesn't explain why I returned to being functional as soon as I started foreplay on her.