I'd like to thank everyone for their comments so far. I'd like to add that I have destroyed all the images as they were on a disc,I know saying it was a one off won't matter to some people but in my own defence I was just a one off, after cleaning out an old room I find the disc and looked at what was on there as anyone would naturally do.
So this was deffinatly a one off and I don't have anymore pictures of any other girls or even my ex. But I understand all sides which is the reason why I posted and indeed joined the forums on here to hear such a difference in opinon.
I am more than happy with my current partner and we both enjoy watching porn either together or alone.
And I certainly don't intend on replacing the real thing for vid/pic/cam subtitute lol
Glad you have found the solution you think will work, it sounds like you already knew it but wanted some reassurance.External Media
You should also know that you don't need to offer a defence, we're not here to scare you off and judge you! Forums like these work best when no body judges anyone.
Wow, this is a complicated thread for me. I would be upset knowing it was an ex yes as Emma has said would make me feel they still wanted them and I wasnt good enough to fill that gap at least. On the other hand though we are all human and seeing other ppl naked and performing sex acts is very hard not to get arroused. I think that so long as your partner is aware and ok with what u are doing tha thats great. Honesty is fantastic in a relationship and personally I just think it's exs that are off sexual bounds as far a visual is concerned.
I'd like to think it wouldn't bother me at all if I found out my OH was doing this as I'm not an especially jealous person, in reality it would probably hurt though. I wouldn't be angry with him, I'd most likely just feel a bit insecure and need some reassurance that it was sexual rather than emotional.
It's a tough hypothetical to work out! I guess I already assume his exes probably pop into his head during sex/masturbation or whatever and while I don't mind, I don't particularly want to hear about it either.
I can't quite decide where I stand on pictures though. My OH has no serious exes so I don't really feel threatened by anyone...plus, we've been together nearly 8 years so masturbating to old pictures would be a bit weird if nothing else!
All I know is that I'm the one he loves now, I'm the one he fucks when he's horny and hugs when he's happy (and vice versa!). As far as I'm concerned that's all that matters. His exes might have amazingly long legs that practically reach my shoulders, or perfect perky boobs but I have his heart...I've already won :) Just because they're hot doesn't mean I'm not and I can think of worse things than him having a cheeky, nostalgic wank!
I did have some pics and videos of me and my ex, both normal and naughty ones, as we've cut off completely, I have deleted them, I could get them back and recover them from my drive. But I honestly think I couldn't look at them...
You know my lad does archery. . . I've started making targets for him for practice in the back garden. Yes I did print an A2 of his mums face and pinned it to the fucker! The kids were in bulk! I got her in the eye. It was a cracking shot. . . . I'm not bitter :-p
You know my lad does archery. . . I've started making targets for him for practice in the back garden. Yes I did print an A2 of his mums face and pinned it to the fucker! The kids were in bulk! I got her in the eye. It was a cracking shot. . . . I'm not bitter :-p
You know my lad does archery. . . I've started making targets for him for practice in the back garden. Yes I did print an A2 of his mums face and pinned it to the fucker! The kids were in bulk! I got her in the eye. It was a cracking shot. . . . I'm not bitter :-p
Not even off topic for once. Nice tie in SG!External Media
I'd have to say that i would be extremely upset if I found shots like that which my boyfriend had. I would inevitably end up reading more into these shots than just flesh. If he wanted flesh he's got the whole of the internet to perve over! I get jealous at the drop of a hat, I know I can completely trust my OH but my low self esteem always leads me to doubting myself. Finding shots like that would be the icing on the cake!
Awwww, wAAAAAaaait a minute. Hiding something does NOT equal wrong doing. I hide my bondage equipment, strap ons and other such business - not because I'm guilty but 1. It would probably scare the seven shits out of any potential suitor and 2. Because it's not something that involves anyone else at present and may not again, who knows?
It's no more wrong to knock one out over an ex than it is to knock one out over porn in my book, but perhaps I might be considered immoral for thinking so :s
I got her in the eye. It was a cracking shot. . . .
I laughed, hard LOL
I don't know, I think the emotional connection means that pleasuring yourself to pictures of an ex is wrong when in a relationship. I'd not be upset to find a partner playing with herself while watching porn, but pictures of an ex, I'd feel hurt and somewhat betrayed *shrugs*
your not alone nexs, i feel the same way. glade im not the only one...
Hella Rouge (LH) wrote:
Awwww, wAAAAAaaait a minute. Hiding something does NOT equal wrong doing. I hide my bondage equipment, strap ons and other such business - not because I'm guilty but 1. It would probably scare the seven shits out of any potential suitor and 2. Because it's not something that involves anyone else at present and may not again, who knows?
It's no more wrong to knock one out over an ex than it is to knock one out over porn in my book, but perhaps I might be considered immoral for thinking so :s
but that is sooooooooooooo competely differant then hiding pics and or vids of your ex of an x rated nature and wanking over them!
See, I think the emotional connection is reundant. Emotions will always be there and the only way to have a relationship with someone without baggage is to marry a foetus. A w*nk's a w*nk and there's no real, other person in the room.
Putting all your photos in a shrine with candles is creepy though. Don't do that.
See, I think the emotional connection is reundant. Emotions will always be there and the only way to have a relationship with someone without baggage is to marry a foetus. A w*nk's a w*nk and there's no real, other person in the room.
Putting all your photos in a shrine with candles is creepy though. Don't do that.
how do you have a history and emotions and feelings with a red tube vid of an annom?
put a vid of ur ex on of you having sex, there you have a history, feelings and emotions?
can people really not see that?
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on a side note this thread is starting to annoy me so im not gonna part take in it anymore,
In that scenario, I would be less annoyed about the ex factor than the idea that they hoarde away stuff like a deviant magpie. It sounds like a control thing and I picture a creepy guy pouring over his gallery of 'precioussss.' External Media
I occasionally masturbate over my ex, I mean she's a heavy sleeper and I do still have a set of spare keys to her flat...
My bad joke aside I think that watching porn is a healthy thing to do but using pictures of a girl you've been in a relationship prior is not okay. If your girlfriend found them she'd be hurt and betrayed and feel you still have feelings for your ex, much like you would do finding her masturbating to pictures of an ex.
Although it's not technically wrong what your doing it could lead to a lot of trouble in your current relationship and with the amount of porn available online you have no need to be keeping those picture.
