Me and partner starting experimenting anal play yesterday.. (me to him mainly) Just with fingers at the moment. It shocked me as I never thought hed let me.. iv wanted to do it for ages! He seemed to love it although iv never done this before so not sure on techniques.. Hopefully its something we will try again but I want to know some more for next time so any tips are welcome.. thanks
Loads of tips on here if you search the forums - with lots of people sharing their experiences.
My best tips is lots of lube, lots of relaxation and lots of comminication with each other to enjoy the moment. Also to truly enjoy it, try both giving and recieving.
lube lube and more lube, and enjoy
Thank you.. any lube recommended? My one was a bit too watery
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32899
this kit is good, recently got this myself
the lube included in the kit is long-lasting, extra-thick water-based lube which is compatible with all toys and condoms it also has a soothing aloe vera for its moisturising properties,suitable for men and women.
Enjoy!
we use liduid silk, last ages
Thanks guys..x
Not sure if he will use toys.. I was surprised he let me use my fingers.. haha xCVR92 wrote:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32899
this kit is good, recently got this myself
the lube included in the kit is long-lasting, extra-thick water-based lube which is compatible with all toys and condoms it also has a soothing aloe vera for its moisturising properties,suitable for men and women.
Enjoy!
I was thinking about this the other day...
1. Prostate massages are f*cking awesome! i swear, I've never cum so hard in my life. Always encourage them when offered
2. There are some interesting toys available for the curious male, some good, some bad but thats life
3. liquid silk is my firm favourate for anything anal..lasts much better than that aqueous naff
4. Looking past toys, whats the female perspective on pegging? i'm exploring the topic with current dom/sub literature but want more of a practical voice..
the thought of pegging is such a turn on for me.. hoping my fingering antics one day lead to that.. one can only hope eh!
It's never appealed to me. That's not to say I'd never try it because I'll try anything once!
MissM22 wrote:
It's never appealed to me. That's not to say I'd never try it because I'll try anything once!
it can give a very different orgasm, or so my oh says, and i love it, male half btw
I suppose it'd be worth a try!
MissM22 wrote:
I suppose it'd be worth a try!
but do it gently with someone you trust
pegging is something very special, just to hand over all the power to your woman and let her do with you what she enjoys..... And the orgasms you get from it are powerful!
But use lots of lube.
How would I go about asking.I didnt even ask for the finger just kind of rubbed the area to see his reaction! Not like I can just pull out a strap on haha.. I find it difficult to express my fantasies for some reasonaanda wrote:
MissM22 wrote:
I suppose it'd be worth a try!
but do it gently with someone you trust
ask him what he wants - more fingers, a but plug, a dildo or being pegged. You might become surprised about his answer
Rachel_1991 wrote:
How would I go about asking.I didnt even ask for the finger just kind of rubbed the area to see his reaction! Not like I can just pull out a strap on haha.. I find it difficult to express my fantasies for some reasonaanda wrote:
MissM22 wrote:
I suppose it'd be worth a try!
but do it gently with someone you trust
yes its sometimes hard to ask for something you want, maybe ask when its not a sexual time
its so strange.. Been together for 4 years yet I feel excited and nervous again..
The taboo around both female and male anal sex is finally being broken down and embraced. Talking is always the first step, then maybe venture into watching some pornos together about the subject. Play with him during what could be the 'uncomfortable' scenes and he's soo start to associate that kind of action with something pleasurable...it's all about training the subconscious ^.-