I actually get off quite a lot to stimulating my partner, I think part of it is that I like to feel competent and giving multiple orgasms and having your partner satisfied is really hot. The problem is that's something I need to practice at and not soemthing a partner can give me, what I really like is the orgasms which leave my partner twitching in involuntary spasm for a minute or so after sex, there's something extremely sexy about that.
I think if anything directly for me it has to be enthusiasm, getting blown is a classic example, it's a real turn off if your partner is doing it begrudgingly. Ladies even if you're doing it at your own expense and don't normally like to then i'd rather stop and find something we both enjoy, or if you don't like it but you really want to please your partner then practice enthusiasm as well as technique. It's a lot hotter if you feel mentally like there's nothing else in the world your partner craves and they just have to have it.
Ha. well, yeah, i guess it would to anybody! But in general, her taking control by showing me what she wants is a real turn on. Like a nice big hug from behind whilst doing normal house things, pulling our bodies together, then her hand slowly moving down my body, into my pants, really slowly stroking until I cum. Phhewww, too hot!
Or another...slowly and lightly stroking a single finger from my perinium over my tightening balls, to the base of my c*ck, slowly up the underside of my c*ck, to the base of my head, running the finger around the rim of my head, then over the top and down the other side. Repeatedly, until I can't bare it anymore.
Really sexy lingerie. A nice corset, garter belt, hold ups and sexy pants with killer heels. She leads me up stairs and throws me on the bed to take charge all night!
Pity this rarely happens any more but I live in hope