I have just turned 43 and found my libido!!. Basically I want to try new things and realise I like a bit of Kink/pleasurable pain, but my OH is not interested.
I have only slept with my OH and he had a previous marriage and girlfriend prior to me (He got married young), I never have an orgasam via Intercourse and often end up finishing myself off as I struggle to come even with my OH touching me. Sometines I do wonder what it would be like with another man.
Over the years I have realised that I have never got much from sex and have liked it a bit rough and enjoy pleasuable pain the odd time my OH has instigated it, but I now realise, that I need more!!
I Started making the odd comment about being Bitten\spanked etc and he just laughed it off, with saying 'right' & ' ok' but over the last few months I have indicated I need\want more, often joking about it but the last few weeks I have had more indepth conversations with him. I have sent him various links via this site, bought a few toys etc, but he just isn't interested!!
We do have anal now and again which we both enjoy, but I can't explain the 'Need/Desire' for more and even after having a orgasam, I'm just not satisfied, I can't expalin it really. I know I can't go on with this need that isn't being satisifed.
Last night when I brought it up after a few glasses of wine and said 'you can always spank me to alleviate your frustratuion at work', he told me I was turning weird. I sent him a link via e mail from this site about spanking saying I would like to try this route, but if he wasn't comfortable and didnt want to do it, I would not mention it again. I have said he can respond via text, leave a note, e mail, if he feels awkward, but just ignored that I even sent it to him.
He has mentioned his odd fantasy and I have said I am up for anything, my hormones must be raging, I am just so worried that I am at my prime, up for anything within reason and need to do\try more and satisfy my needs. He doesnt even like kissing, which I find so frustrating as this does turn me on and I know that along side being bitten/dominated etc, I could reach an orgasam.
We are quite an open couple, so I dont think he's shy, just not into it. I know he looks at porn sites, what man doesn't and I dont mind at all. I just dont know what to do and perhspa there isn't anything, I just feel sad. I now feel I may have made it even worse by mentioning it, perhaps pushed him away, but then I feel if I dont mention it, he will think I dont want it any more and we will end up back where we were, me not satisfied!!
I love my husband, have teenage children and would never leave him but I dont know what else to do......sorry for the rambling, long winded post, just need to vent out my frustration!!