My wife and I have been together over 10years, now in our 30's.
sex has always been good. We have it regularly, say 2-3 times a week. I have a high sex drive but my wife doesn't necessarily. Certainly not as high as mine. She is definitely very much a sub and I'm the dom.
i guess the problem is, I want to be sub sometimes. What I find frustrating at the moment is she never takes the initiative in terms of our sex life, it's always me who pushes for a new toy or asking her to dress up and I'm finding this more and more frustrating. Last night I asked her to browse LH to add to a wish list of what she likes. She just didn't bother and said she didn't understand what I wanted. Again I find this frustrating. Don't get me wrong we have lots of toys but all stuff I've bought.
id love to come home and find her ready and waiting for me and treat me but once again it's always me who has to take the initiative. I try and talk to her but it just gets shrugged off.
Don't get me wrong I just want to please her as much as I can, I can't think what any other woman would want more. It's not just about me. She's also quite liberal in bed whereas I want to try anything and everything. Don't get me wrong we've done anal and restraints recently but everything is quite 'samey'
how can I get her to take more of a dominant role :-( currently I'm suggesting we need more of a open relationship so I can go and get some kicks but I guess this is ridiculous suggestion.
so am I being unreasonable or wanting too much, how can I get her to be more assertive in bed. She's so flipping hot and sexy and I tell her this, as she's said before its a confidence thing.
HELP!!!