Those of you who have seen the cheery thread will know that I had my 12 week scan today and everything was great :) however, my partner and I decided not to have any form of sex for the first 12 weeks of pregnancy (due to my history of miscarriage), including masturbation and orgasms for me. Now that the 12 week wait is up, I'm feeling really nervous about getting back in the game!
I spoke to my OH about us resuming sex a few days ago, but he felt that it was best to wait until after the baby is born as he's too scared, and feels like sex is too invasive while I'm pregnant. I understand this and I'm okay with it, I'm also scared, but I would like to resume some level of intimacy in the bedroom, even if it's just touching and oral.
My problem is that I've developed a fear of orgasms, whereas I used to absolutely love them. I know an orgasm at this stage won't cause any problems, but I've woken up mid orgasm after a sex dream a couple of times and it's really hurt, like strong menstrual cramps, but only for a minute or so after the orgasm is finished. According to Google this is normal due to increased blood flow to the uterus, but it's really freaked me out! :(
Has anyone else experienced this during pregnancy, if so, were you told it was ok? I don't see my consultant until December now, i did ask my midwife about orgasms when I booked in (before I knew they hurt) and she said it was fine... :/
Also, any tips for easing back in to a sexual relationship? I think this is the longest we've ever abstained for so I feel a bit like a virgin! I've got some new lingerie to surprise OH with, but I just feel like I'll be crap at everything now and I'm not feeling very body confident either, as I look more fat/bloated than pregnant at the moment.
Thank you, sorry for the long post :)