could anyone give any suggestions for almost silent/extremely quiet vibrators? married to my husband for almost 18yrs and over the last year or so, we have been trying to spice things up after a few bumps in the road.....
I have suggested using a vibrator, but my husband isn’t 100% sure (and that’s perfectly fine!), he says it’s mainly due to the noise, I think he finds the buzzing noise off putting..... if I could maybe show him or suggest to him one that isn’t so daunting, he may be more accepting?
Hi there sassybirch, welcome to the forums. it's difficult to recommend without knowing your price range, preferences et cetera but I'll throw a few ideas out there for you chick.
For the ultimate silent toy a dildo is perfect if you'd consider non vibration penetration toys.
Glass is marvellous and offers so much more than say a silicone dildo in my opinion, you get the options of temperature play, super easy to clean thoroughly and the wonderful full feeling due to the added weight...Here's a link to the glass section where there's a few good bargains currently like the Tracey Cox set of 2 for £20 among others- https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/dildos/glass-dildos/
Steel is the best insertable material on the market in my opinion since trying the below my other dildos have been made redundant! This is part 2 of my ultimate combination
For clitoral stimulation part one of my ultimate combination is as follows - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=36366 the desire butllet isn't silent however no toy offering vibration is, having said that it's one of the quietest toys we own and offers very good power. Its also on offer for £26:99 trust me that's a bloody good bargain!
There is a link for the extra quiet vibrator section to give you some food for thought - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/vibrators/extra-quiet-vibrators/ I own a few of them such as the mantric vibe, the greedy girl rabbit vibe and the fifty shades love egg are all quiet vibes that don't disturb my other half whilst he's sleeping or in the next room.
have fun on your search for the perfect toy for yourself 
I have suggested using a vibrator, but my husband isn’t 100% sure (and that’s perfectly fine!), he says it’s mainly due to the noise, I think he finds the buzzing noise off putting..... if I could maybe show him or suggest to him one that isn’t so daunting, he may be more accepting?
any help would be appreciated!
thanks
Hi SassyBirch
If your partner is feeling intimidated by the presence of toys, then I'd go for the least obvious one. A tiny bullet feels great to use, but is often very quiet when used on a low setting, and practically inaudible under a duvet.
I bought the Rainbow version of this. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31452 It is not the most powerful toy I own, but I found it to be the quietest if my toys on its low setting. I also suggest this as it's quite small, and this one is a nice, neutral colour.
Also to add - the desire range is FANTASTIC quality. So Sexi-Lexi's suggestion is a brilliant given that it's on offer at the moment. I personally love steel dildos, they're the best, but if your husband is feeling a little skittish at the idea of sex toys in general, maybe a big metal appendage isn't what will work for you guys at the moment? Keep us updated, I'm really interested to know what you choose! And I hope it adds the spice you're looking for 😊
If he's a bit unsure about toys in general you could consider getting something that's not only quiet but also more of a couples toy so he doesn't feel left out. 🙂
The Lovehoney Flash is a very quiet, very discreet, clitoral vibrator that's small enough to not get in the way during the main event. He won't feel much effect from it as it's quite targeted but he also won't feel like it's getting in his way.
The Lovehoney Mini Wand is also a great starter toy which doesn't get too loud. It's more of a broad stimulation than the Flash and can be used to great effect on lots of areas of the body. It's also reasonably small so won't get in the way during either. In fact, in the right positions (something like you lying on your back with your ankles over his shoulders) he will benefit from the overflow vibrations which, in my case, make me harder and last longer (though vibration stimulation also desensitises me so it may not be to everyone's taste). A lot of people also use the mini wand during blow jobs too. Placing it on the perineum or the tip, for example, can add that extra bit of oomph to oral. 🙂
Thank you everyone for your suggestions..... they all look great. I think a small bullet is the way to go.
After exploring the website last night alone, I casually mentioned the use of toys in the bedroom again and he said he doesn’t really see the Point in using toys when you have the real thing in front of you...... before he said they were too noisy, now he doesn’t see the point. I have no idea what the real issue is and i think anything larger could make him run a mile. I also feel I could be fighting a losing battle here and might have to accept that my toys will be for solo play only, which is ok.
the desire bullet looks lovely! I will keep you posted on developments!
Thank you everyone for your suggestions..... they all look great. I think a small bullet is the way to go.
After exploring the website last night alone, I casually mentioned the use of toys in the bedroom again and he said he doesn’t really see the Point in using toys when you have the real thing in front of you...... before he said they were too noisy, now he doesn’t see the point. I have no idea what the real issue is and i think anything larger could make him run a mile. I also feel I could be fighting a losing battle here and might have to accept that my toys will be for solo play only, which is ok.
the desire bullet looks lovely! I will keep you posted on developments!
thank you again.
That's a shame, personally I love watching Mrs Chimp play with her toys (and I even have a few of my own too). There's a Lovehoney guide about introducing sex toys into a relationship which may have some extra tips in for you if you don't fancy giving up just yet. 🙂
Like Ian says I absolutely love watching my wife playing with her toys and also helping her. If you think it might be an intimidation thing then steer away from the more realistic options on offer. Suggest something so far from the real thing that would offer something completely different and new. Glass and Steel dildo's are amazing and great for temperature play. The added weight of the heavy material has assisted some women to squirt including my wife. As for something quiet, I can highly recommend the Desire bullet that has been linked above for you it my wife's all time favourite. Something else you could consider if you are looking for clit stimulation is the Red hot flickering tongue... https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37758 it is just WOW and very quiet. It is however very powerful and the stimulation is very precise so if you are not used to a lot of power it may be a touch to much at the moment.
That's a tricky one, have you had a conversation about exploring the site together? I could be wrong here it sounds as though your oh maybe concerned about being replaced by a toy or envisioning massive toys that are intimidating from his perspective. Does he like taking control? If so then a love egg where he gets to tailor your pleasure with the remote giving ultimate control - we have the fifty shades one from Lovehoney, their not the most powerful of items but they are a great build up toy and giving conttol ups part of the fun. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/love-eggs-jiggle-balls/remote-control-love-eggs/
The desire bullet is incredible!
It's difficult with your oh not being as keen on the idea as yourself, the last thing you want to do is make him run a mile from introducing them down the line. If it was me I'd book a meal or even a nice dinner at home and gently broach the subject trying to establish his thoughts so you know whether to go solo for now.
Have a look at the Coco De Mer Emmeline Rechargable Pleasure Wand. Fantastically smooth feel, quiet but powerful! A real luxury product and worth the money! https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34074
We would strongly suggest a bullet, they are quiet and also if your introducing toys for the first time they are far less intimidating and intense than bigger toys. Also you can make sure you close the door and put the bedsheets over your intimate area to get rid of any unwanted buzzing.
I agree with Sexi Lexi about exploring the subject togther. The love egg would be an excellent choice as that involves him playing with you indirectly. Could really spice things up before sex.
What about toys for him? Something simple like a cock ring and some lube would be a good start.