I’ve always been open about periods with friends and family - less so at work because it really isn’t any business of colleagues who are not friends, unless time off is needed.
Not many women are, though, it seems. Still often something to be kept quiet rather than out there in the real world?
I had the big heavy clotty ones too @CurvyJilly - later a scan showed adenomyosis. Wish I’d known that earlier! Explains a lot of pain and nausea and these things should be talked about as they affect our health, work and relationships.
@Ian_Chimp if you are inviting stories, I have scooped up clots before and taken them to my GP, in case of early miscarriage (I’ve had premature babies due to a blood clotting disorder). They were normal tissue, but vomit-inducing to pass. It can be quite a lot of blood-loss. My periods were like that from age 11. The same pain drug is still prescribed - as far as I know - nearly 40 years later.
Thank f*ck I don’t get periods any more. Menopause brings other issues, and 'm happy to discuss those.
We’ve also been open with the kids from the start. No ‘big conversation age 9’ for ours - they just grew up knowing everything, age appropriately. We are body positive and sex positive and so far this has been better than either of our upbringings in this respect.
Don’t get me started on amniocentesis tests - nothing like having a child with Down’s to get friends / acquaintances / family (a) telling you about the steps they took to avoid the life you ended up with, or (b) ignoring you completely - in case ‘bad’ luck is catching?
I don’t know why some people behave that way - damned if you have a test, damned if you don’t. However open we may choose to be about universal experiences (e.g. having periods or knowing someone who has them), some of our personal choices are not public property until we decide that they are.
(I do just want to add that genetic history has nothing to do with Down’s (the condition mostly tested for via amniocentesis, as well as some rarer syndromes). It is mostly luck and an amnio test gives a choice of whether or not to continue a pregnancy - it doesn’t lead to other tests as far as I know?)