I have no complaints really. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years with a few stints of making it work long distance - so we've proven our devotion and strength for one another. Love the woman to bits and our sex life fluctuates but is pretty incredible. We are quite content in having sex once or twice a week because our libidos don't demand more.
The problem isn't in the sex either as we have tried new things, keep it loving and intimate and open to new positions, toys etc.
She is open enough to new things and claims that I'm the only guy to have ever made her interested in sex or even enjoy sex ... but...
She never seems to actually talk about sex, talk about her fantasies, or even instigate sex at all besides special occasions.
I'm wondering if this is normal.
I don't feel like I'm demanding or insistent but just to have my partner take an active interest in sex in conversation or pleasure me or instigate sex randomly for fun just seems to be an ever growing desire for me.
I've talked to her openly about this. I ask open questions to try to encourage sexual dialogue. I've suggested new things which we tend to use and then never touch again... it just feels like I'm the only one making an effort or actively thinking about our sex life as an important part of our relationship.
Perhaps Im over thinking or perhaps my libido is becoming out of synch with hers. I just need some general advice on what I could do.