my lover wants me to be more dom when we have sex and I am enjoying exploring this. but I struggle with knowing how much to tease/withhold and when to give pleasure and how to give pleasure while remaining in character. He isn't into lots of pain and I want to really get him turned on but not let him cum till I say so.
I can't particularly help but I can recommend the purchase of some restraints. Personally I think the Sportsheets under bed restraints would be a great way to start things off. I'm sure Love Honeys very own Hella Rouge will have some advice to give on the actual dominatrix side of things though. :)
thanks Muz. I think my question is less about toys and more about what to say and how to say it. How to do things that give him pleasure but retaining a "strict mistress" tone.
thanks Muz. I think my question is less about toys and more about what to say and how to say it. How to do things that give him pleasure but retaining a "strict mistress" tone.
Yeah, that's the part I think HR excels at, that and latex anyway. I'm sure you'll have plenty of helpful advice by the end of the day from the community but I do really recommend those restraints, I love my set! External Media
Have a google for "T&D" or "Teasing & denial", it's quite popular. If you just want ideas for being more dom, then have a scout round the various video porn sites (xhamster, youporn, extremetube, etc.) and search for "femdom", you should get about a billion hits ;)
My OH loves it - i really like the idea of us being able to switch roles and let the other take control once in a while. But i always seem to freeze when it comes down to me taking control of him.
I can think of numerous ways to do this when we are apart from each other and talking naughty, but then get together and it stops. We have been together over 4 years - so its not like i dont trust him or im afraid, and we have experimented in pretty much every area i know of.
Anyone have any tips for how to give myself a kick up the bum and make him and me pull this off.
I think words are really powerful and one of the easiest ways to convey 'power' unfortunately you often feel a bit of a knob saying stuff! It takes practice. It might be easier to talk to him when he is blindfolded so he can't make eye contact and embarrass you!
Of course there are lots of things to try to that other members might chip in with.
I think words are really powerful and one of the easiest ways to convey 'power' unfortunately you often feel a bit of a knob saying stuff! It takes practice. It might be easier to talk to him when he is blindfolded so he can't make eye contact and embarrass you!
Of course there are lots of things to try to that other members might chip in with.