I definitely agree with the advice so far. Sharing fantasies is a great way to explore ideas. As you canât be together right now, you could also set him little tasks like writing a fantasy down and sending it to you or for him to send you something to inspire you, be it a picture, a writing, some info on a particular kink or even some porn (or hot scene in a non porn movie or show).
Make sure you do at some point discuss limits and boundaries, just to make sure you donât go too far (or not far enough!). Subject to those I would suggest:
Blindfolds are great. It will add to his anticipation and also give you a little space if you arenât sure what to do next.
Restraints are good. You donât necessarily need to delve too much into more complicated bondage (unless you want to) so something like an under mattress restraint is perfect. Telling him off for trying to reach you or wiggling too much (or praising him for being still) just reminds him (and you!) who is in charge right now.
You donât have to go too far away from your comfort zone. Is there a particular thing you like him to do for you (sex act, something sensual, whatever)? If so, tell him that he is to do that. Or if there is something you really love doing to him, tell him you are going to do that to him until he begs you to stop.
Donât try to throw loads of new elements in all at once. Less is more in this case.
Have him ask permission to do things such as âcan I sit on the bed next to you?â âCan I kiss you?â âCan I touch youâ etc. You donât have to deny him (unless you want to) but just having him ask before he does just asserts your authority gently.
Text him instructions beforehand like reminding him of time and place and not to be late or telling him what to wear (even if you donât plan the whole outfit, just say you want him to wear a particular colour or whatever).
But the best advice I can give is donât stress too much. If it goes a bit wrong, it goes a bit wrong. If you get a fit of giggles, cuddle up to him and giggle together, if you forget everything you were planning to do declare that as you are the dominant one it is his job to pamper and serve you so he best get on with giving you the best night of your life!