ok so the book arrived yesterday and i have made headway in readin git, hwever im really stuck on a lot of it,i.e. the sensat focus part, i am at a toal loss as to what arousal is so how can i arrive at what level of arousal im at? the book doesnt help at all with anything to do with that at all, it later goes on to where you find your g spot, and im totally unable to do that at all, i have never ever had my fingers in there ever!! i have tried but i just cant do it, but once again im stuck as to what is arousal? if i dont know what that is then going any further is pointless, as i cant answer the questions, even being to myself, its just poking for the sake of poking to me
earlier on in the book it was saying about the being able to what only can be called fantasy element of thinking about how your sex should be etc etc im not able to do this at all, i never have done, the best i can muster is a thought of i wish i could be better, and thats it i have no ability on making it better with any affect in my mind, its like watching a tv programme without switching it on, its total blackness.
so there you go perhaps you can now see why im struggling here?