We did this when I was married to my ex-husband. It didn’t contribute in any way to our break up and it was before kids.
It was really great fun to be honest. We often talked about trying it again but the opportunity didn’t arise.
We had fantasised about me ‘cheating’ when I was girlie weekend or something but nothing ever came of it but one year on holiday in Greece he just suggested I try it there. It was a lovely sailing type resort and there were lots of nice guys there in groups doing sailing holidays.
I spent two lovely nights over the two weeks with one of the guys we met. My husband loved me retelling what happened and I really enjoyed it, obviously.
It was perhaps something that could only work on holiday, it was very easy to slip off to bed at different times and the group was mingling so much during the day that I don’t think anyone noticed the little romance between me and ‘my holiday treat’, as my ex-husband called him.
It wasn’t anything like these cuckold fantasy things you see on the internet. It was just nice, open, relaxed, summer fun.
I can’t see how it could have happened so easily in our normal life other than perhaps at a wedding of an old friend or something.
I did cheat (with permission) a little later on a girlie weekend and told him about it. That was fine but not nearly as sexy and he only enjoyed the story once or twice. It wasn’t that great a story really, to be honest, I had sex with the yoga instructor and that was that!
If I got remarried I would consider trying all of this again.
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This aore of your partner presents a question then, for you to ponder and take action on. Are you ok with actually carrying this fantasy out, or would you rather role play “the stranger” ? Your partner can go so far as to choose a partner for you, who would act as “the stranger”, like in hot wife situations, or you two could go to a bar and actually find a suitable, consentual “stranger” that you both agree on for your adventure, and bring him home for awhile. The possibilities are many once you decide how far you are willing to take this fantasy of his .
Another question to address prior to any action is to talk to your husband casually and openly about what is it specifically that lures him in with the idea of fucking a stranger. Is it the sheer “sluttiness” of it? Is it the risk of a potentially dangerous situation that turns him on? Maybe it is the act of actually viewing you having sexwith someone else( voyeurism ).
Knowing exactly what element of his fantasy gets him aroused will ensure that if you accommodate his fantasy, your efforts will not be in vain, because your husband will, hopefully, be satisfied with your homeade “scenario” , and you have planned it’ll out together. Its always good to discuss one’s limits and boundaries with each other anyways prior to intercourse, along with mentions of any expectations and any concerns one may have regarding the role play.
Stay open minded.
Think creatively how this could be accommodated and pleasurable for both of you where no morals or ethical biefs are compromised. That is the goal anyways, right? Everyone should be sexually satisfied during the activity, and pleasurably aroused and curious about what is happening.
-Sandy Sinn
So after all of this we have split up … I fucked another man
Then so did he i couldn’t handle it
After all so definitely not my thing …
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@Curious_couple_20 I’m sorry to hear that. You did previously say your relationship “wasn’t that stable”.
So he slept with another guy too?
Take care and thanks for the update x
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Sorry to hear this @Curious_couple_20 x I hope you’re doing ok
So sorry to hear this sad outcome @Curious_couple_20 x
@Curious_couple_20 very sorry to hear that things haven’t worked out.
Sorry to hear you have split up but it did sound as if things were not stable beforehand. I hope you find a new sole mate soon.
Mrs.John, I am so sorry for this to be happening to you. Even if you fucked another man and he did the exact thing as you, breakups always suck. Hang in there. It will get better.
I cheated on my ex boyfriend awhile back, and I always thought that even though he forgave me, and I never did it again, despite how painfully hard it was not to. I always wondered after my incident, if he would “retaliate” by doing it to me. It would’ve been his “get out of jail free” card, so to speak. If the situation was reversed, and he had cheated on me, I would probably take that as an opportunity to do it too if a situation came up and I was able to do it discretely . That’s probably horrible of me to say but, I’m being honest.
I sincerely hope for healing and growth to come from your breakup. I know it must be hard on you. Sometimes we don’t truly see the damage of our actions, or the effects that they can have on the ones we are close to until that same thing happens to us as well. Its how we grow in empathy and compassion, and learn to discipline ourselves for what truly matters to us .
It will get easier in time, I know, so hang in there! - Xo
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totally agree. It can also help couples where the marriage is great but the man just isn’t great in bed. We love each other very much but my wife openly admits she feels affection and could happily live without sex between us if she had a man to take care of those needs. We’re close enough to be open and to open consider the idea.
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I used to do porn in the 90s. It is ENTERTAINMENT, not realistic. I do not allow porn when we are having sex. I want to be his “pornstar”, not have to compete with the visually appealing, overdone, fake scenes that play on the screen along with us. I can fuck like that if need be, but realistically, sex is something unique to the individual, the situation, place, time, and emotional state of each person. Porn is good for masturbation and entertaining oneself or in “scratching the itch” when needed. Those are just my boundaries with it, but you must find your own. I wish you the best in your sexual journey.
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