I see everyone talking about their orgasms and experiences but I have NEVER had an orgasm and I really envy you. Although, sex with my boyfriend feels great, I want to orgasm. And yes, I'm sure I have never had an orgasm, solo or with my boyfriend.
I have tried clitoral stimulation using my hands and toys that vibrate (bullet, etc), still nothing. I get close sometimes and then lose it (the feeling).
I have tried oral sex, still nothing. It feel amazing and I'm very sensitive to it but it doesn't make me cum, no matter how long we go on for.
I have tried G-Spot stimulating toys (Greedy Girl G Spot Rabbit, a variety of vibrations intensities and patterns, still nothing. I feel like they don't work for me but my boyfriends fingers do, they feel great but they're not enough.
I have tried having sex with my boyfriend in many positions, still nothing. The only time I get close is when I'm laying on my back and he's on his knees angling upwards, he goes on for ages like that and I get close but he has to stop because it's tiring going on for so long.
I really want to Orgasm.
Does/Did anyone else have this problem?
How did you overcome it?
Can someone please give me tips on what I can do to orgasm?
I had much troubles to orgasm before ...I was really focused on it and it's true that it's just makes it not happen. You need to let go as tiger said
The more you let go the more you will get close to get it or even orgasm....trust me I was almost like you and now I have multiple ones just because I just learn to let go and enjoy
It's about sensations but your brain plays a HUGE role in that and if you're stressed about it or even just focused it won't work Try instead to focus on the sensations enjoy every pleasurable one and you'll see it'll get better trust me!
Yep, I completely agree with the advice you've been given. I used to really struggle to orgasm too, and even now I find if I start to think about orgasming the build up goes away. Frustrating to say the least. A much better thing to focus on (for me at least) is a memory of something that really turned me on, something that when you think about it it really makes you wet. Thinking sexy thoughts can take you out of your own head and the pressure you are putting on yourself to come.
have you tried watching porn before hand? there are many categories that specifiy what youre particularly into. i recommend watching some before playing to really turn you on, with your partner it can be kinky fun too. it will be mentally stimulating you in the right way (terms of hornyness)
perhaps try some new toys and the beauty with lovehoney is if they dont work out you can get a refund upto 1 year.
how about trying some powerful toys? wands and wand attachments etc. perhaps youre not achieving orgasms because they arent powerful enough for you.
Agree with everyone else. I couldnt orgasm for a very long time, thot perhaps it'd never happen for me because I didn't even get close. Then I met hubby started getting close but mindblock kicked in. The minds a powerful tool and if you're thinking "i need to cum "i wanna cum" its no gonna happen.
Take the focus off the orgasm for now. You're getting close so I'd say it'll happen if you stop willing it, if you get me.
All the best and have fun, orgasms arent the b all and end all anyway. Sex can still be incredible without them 👍😙💗xx
I'm glad I've stumbled on this thread. I have always experienced great organisation with my husband. First man who has made me orgasm purely through penetrative sex. But recently where we've had so much sex and so regularly recently that it seems to escape me these days. I have been reading the replies and I admit I do have a tendency to start chasing the orgasm. Sometimes I'm so close I'm so sure I will but I never reach climax even if the feelings don't go away however I become fixated. Now I just need to work out a way of stopping myself thinking about it...
What bullet vibrator did you try? Maybe trying a stronger vibrator (if that's something you can be into) would work. And from what you said when you have sex withy our OH, maybe a G-spot dildo would help too.
Try using both at the same time, and as other have said, focus on the experience rather than on on the orgasm itself. See amsturbation time as time to discover and experiment with yourself, in order to learn what feels good for you. The more you experiment, the closer you'll get to an orgasm because the more you'll be aware of what works and doesn't works for you. So see it as "I am doing this to get closer to having an orgasm one day" rather than "this is the one, I'm having an orgasm today". You can experiment like that with your OH too, if he wants too, but I really recommend masturbating alone too, as this is the best way to learn your own body.
In regards to toy suggestions, here's what I can suggest: