I have never had a orgasm!!!

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Hi everyone,

I posted on here months ago, but can't seem to find it.

Anyway, I am 32, finally in a great relationship (past ones have been horrendous on many levels) but I have never had a orgasm. I have been with my partner for 3-4 years, and I have seemed to have tried everything. It's starting to make me think that I will never experience one!!!

Our sex life is great but I long for that same level of "ending" like my partner gets every time.

We have tried various positions, items from our "secret box" (orgasm gel, mini vibrator) oral stimulation as well as DIY. Even got sent for psychosexual counselling which didn't really help so I stopped going.

I do get turned on to the point that I am verbal, back arches, but it's like I had to the top of the hill but can't seem to get over the other side.

Any advice would be welcome, thanks.

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Hi Mandixx, you may find the advise on this recent thread helpful:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1475047-please-help-me-orgasm-for-the-first-time/

as you seem to have a similar problem as the one described. Hope this is helpful!

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Hey! Hope you don't mind, but I've copied my response to a very similar question for you:

You said you've tried toys before, but were they good quality ones? I saw a woman on a documentary who had similar difficulties and she tried a toy, it didn't work and she was gutted. I was practically screaming at the TV NOOOO! DON'T GIVE UP BECAUSE A CHEAP BATTERY OPERATED JELLY TOY DIDN'T DO IT FOR YOU!

Anyway, here's a little shopping list of things that may help you - I've tried all except the book, so you can click on my name and scroll through my profile if you want to read my reviews.

Try starting with this book about how to DIY: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34290

Strengthening your pelvice floor muscles could really help. I personally love this toner: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32417 but try the 3 step system if that one seems to heavy: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=20747

These toys are amazing for locating the elusive g-spot and the rosa is also an amazing clit vibrator, so it's like 2 in 1. It's expensive, but well worth it - google a discount code:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30909

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32877

These are brilliant clit stimulators:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35579

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21149

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33367

Remember to get some good quality lube as well - I highly recommend the Sliquid ones. Good luck, and let us know how you get on!