alone4ever wrote:
Hi
There is obviously something that is bothering her or she wouldn't end up crying when you try to talk to her. I don't think she has gone over to thinking of you as a sister would or she wouldn't get horny at all.
Getting her to talk is the only way to get her through this, she is not a car you can't just have her retuned for racing, by uping her sex drive.
I'm going to throw a long ball here as there is little to go on. If she has a much lower sex drive than you; and from what you say about you thats not difficult to be true. Then she may have been giving you sex when she wasn't really up for it for most of your relationship, and now she feels that it's getting too much for her to do this. If when she does feel horny, and you for what ever reason find it inconvenient, and I don't know what you class as inconvenient, or do you mean litterally impossible times, but she may be feeling that she has being giving it to you when she didn't want it and now you won't do the same for her; that is going to make her feel she is in a one sided relationship. She must love you or she wouldn't still be around, she may be getting turned on by your unavailabillity at those times she does want sex and you can't.
Try going back to basics, kissing holding and touching, massages but not the erotic kind, wispered words of love, and a little sprinkling of desire, give her lots of attention that do not lead to sex. and wait for her to make the moves, for her to want you because you have become unavalible all the time, so to speak. let her know that you are waiting for her to be that way with you when she is ready, and hold on.
How much sex your mates are getting and the fact that they are gettng more than you shouldn't be of concern for you; how much sex you get doesn't give you the measure of the man, how much you love and support the woman who loves you is what makes you a real man.
Youth has it's pains and raging horniness for a guy is one of them, find other things to take your mind off it or learn to love pleasuring yourself; but don't hurt her by cheating. If you must, then let her go, but maybe it's time to show some maturity and try to make it work with her; you have given her 2 years of your life so that shows you care, and you can for a long term relationship
^ This, OMG!
It couldn't agree more.
Being in your gf's situation maybe I can give you some advices too.
As terri JJ said, make her feel loved and wanted, and not only when you want to have sex. If shee feels that you want to cuddle her only when you're horny she will not feel loved and will feel like you only try to make her feel good when you have something to gain from it. Don't pressure her into anything. When you tell her that you want her, put emphasis on the fact that you don't want sex because it's good for you, but because it's good for her and you want her to be satisfied because you love her. Put her pleasure before yours and let her know you do. I know it can be hard to want sex when you feel like the other person is not interested in it but you really need to hold on to it. If both of you get tired of the situation and that causes you two to never want sex anymore, you're screwed.
Other thing, when you do have sex, make sure she is completly satisfied. I feel really down right now because i'm not physically satisfied, and because we focus on that I feel like i'm not emotionally satisfied. Try to satisfy her on both levels. You may need to talk to her to know what are her needs. For the emotional part, it may help too to agree on simply cuddling without it leading to sex. This will get pressure off her and make sure she is in a good mood about you're relashionship and feel close to you. Also, make sure you make her know and feel that you love her just as much even if you're in a rough situation.
Last thing, you may need to talk to her to know the cause of all that, because as alone4ever said, maybe she never really was into sex and was only doing it for you. This was my case when I first got with my bf. I had been with boys before that who had forced me into sex and since it was my first experiences I never learnt to enjoy sex and I never thought it was for me too to enjoy. So the first aproximativly first year with my boyfriend I was still in that pattern, when I realised that it was not normal and that he was not like the other and that something was wrong with me. I am now slowly recovering from all that, but it is really hard for both of us. The most important thing that came out of this is that it is now verry important for both of us that we are both into it when we have sex. I can say too that dicovering lovehoney has helped a lot. It helped me to take control of my own sexuality because we buy thing to make my experience better during sex. Maybe i'm getting too far and it's not you're girlfriend situation as alone4ever did suggest, but if it is, you really wanna know and make sure you take care of it.
Good luck with that, I hope my experience can help you :)