So, I’m single and only using toys. I have a pretty active imagination but once I actually get down to it, my focus goes, and my desire to masturbate soon follows. How do you keep concentration levels up during the actual act?
thank you 😊
(not sure if this is relevant or not - I’m a virgin, so maybe that is causing problems as my fantasies tend to repeat themselves as I don’t know what else to think of)
Hi , have you ever tried reading any erotic fiction? It can open you up to some new fantasies that you mIght never have thought about before and get you well and truly aroused before you start to play helping you to maintain your focus and keep things going :)
Agree with wildflower, erotic writing can be more effective than video porn, your mind engages more when reading, you'll have to allow yourself to be truly drawn in and participate in the fiction, but it can certainly.
Another thing I often use is audio erotica, which is somewhere in-between, still requires a lot of imagination and therefore draws you in more, check out /r/gonewildaudio on Reddit for some of the best content.
I aslo think erotic writings may help . I have the same problem sometimes , my wife does not have the same sex drive as myself . Fatasies for me that seem to keep me going are often of a kinkier nature than anything I have had . Also many involve someone I know or a random person I know of that would be totally taboo . For me getting as many pleasure points going at the same time keeps me fired up . I am terrible at names , but faces and looks are a snapshot in my mind . Often a chance meeting may become a fantacy for me .
I also like to use my active imagination, like you. I'm not really into porn and erotic novels but who knows, they may help you.
I have to be really in the "zone" for masturbation because if anything knocks my concentration I'm going to struggle to enjoy myself. I find that not being tired or having some noise in the background to block out other sounds helps me concentrate.
As for staying turned on through out your session, just go more in depth with your imagination. Imagine it from the other guy's/girl's point of view, how good it's feeling, all the sex noises, ect. Sometimes I imagine an inside scene of the penis in my vagina going at it and eventually cumming (like there's a tiny camera in there haha).
You could always change your ideas if you feel they are not quite working for you, too. It just depends what you're into.
Just let your imagination run wild you can think about anyone and anything just stay focused on masturbating and enjoy.