I’m sorry that this might have been your experience or common in your social circle, but to state it is a generalised “fact” is wrong. As for the previous claim that this is linked to property and financial rights having been secured, I find that incredibly offensive. As a woman, with many female friends and plenty of talking about this topic, we and our sex drives are more varied than you can possibly imagine. Some of us want and enjoy sex more than our male partners. Some of us have family and financial set-ups quite different from what you appear to consider normal. Some of do not want children. Some of us have gone off sex with a husband or partner because of their treatment of us- but would relish it again with someone else or if a partner started putting more effort in to the relationship. Abstract generalisations are rarely anything approaching accurate. I’d suggest avoiding or handling with great care.
Here at Lovehoney we understand that sex drives ebb and flow over time, this affects people of all genders and can happen for a variety of reasons. Talking is essential when you and your partner find themselves in a situation of mismatched sex drives. Here is a great blog post about communication, and another on miss-matched sex drives.
This blog post by Sexpert Tracey Cox breaks down some of the myths about female sexuality, namely, that women don’t like sex as much as men.
We must point out, misogynistic comments will not be tolerated in this space.
The misogyny in the thread is amusing. Don’t guys know misogyny is a turn off to most women? 
Interesting topic though. It’s all down to society and the pressures she enacts.
I wonder if penetration is a factor. A woman admitting she masturbates generally infers that she enjoys being penetrated which socially is more of a judgey subject than just getting off. Whereas when men talk about masturbation you can bet they’re not joking about how they like to play with their butt, even royalty will keep that bit a secret allegedly 
I wonder how many men own a dildo but keep it secret vs women. I bet the percentages are in women’s favour there 
that’s one area where men can get a taste of that societal pressure.
My personal view is that people easily get caught up in societal pressure and what men and women apparently should and shouldn’t do. If you’re listening to that pressure and not what your body and partner say, you’re going to see more ebb than flow.
I would say it is as common as men, but us women are less likely to talk about it. Certainly amongst my closest gal mates it is common.
Bex
I see this all too often. Saying judgemental and outdated things and wondering why no one wants to fuck you 
From my perspective, we’ve been taught that only “sluts” enjoy sex since the purpose is of it is for making babies ONLY. So your supposed to kinda grin and bear it. Openly saying that you love dick, toys and masturbation means you’re using sex wrong. We were never told about female pleasure because it wasn’t essential to procreation like a male’s orgasm is. I definitely masturbate more than my partner and yet it’s more “taboo” for me to wank than him? Then again, it’s less so for me to own sex toys than it is for him to own them. Confusing, eh?
Attitudes are always changing and more people are seeing things in a new way. Speaking about being comfortable with their bodies and how they use them helps to erase harmful stigmas. However, all those years of being pressured to feel “dirty” or “guilty” don’t go away overnight. While I may not have any shame in masturbation anymore, others may feel differently?
Oldman here , I have an idea that may settle everyone down a bit . Would the title of this thread been better and probably more accurate is it had been . " Ladies masturbating ? Why do women not talk about it as much as men ?"
I do think social pressure has taught many that they would be concidered slutty etc. Over my several years of enjoying women and knowing several intimately , the vast majority took some time to even admit to self pleasure . I have had several girlfriends that would use talk about masturbation as a bit of foreplay , especially a bit of teasing when we were not in a place to have sex . But I would say the majority would not talk about it near as readily . It is a shame it is that way , but things seem to be coming around .
Speaking as an older male, from my experience in the workplace and life, neither sex discuss masturbation much.
So to assume one does it more than another, is wrong.
Firstly can I just say it shouldn’t matter whether your female or male - sexual pleasure is something to be enjoyed by all. We are no longer in the ‘dark ages’ thus sexual enjoyment and freedom should be celebrated and embraced.
This idea that men get more pleasure than women is a myth, especially so since the likes of LoveHoney and other such brands.
Pleasuring oneself isn’t a topic that people openly discuss all that often but in my opinion it really ought to be. We discuss our eating habits and our physical habits in terms of exercise, well sexual pleasure is just another element of life whether it’s with a partner or solo! Sexual health very much links to mental health which is finally being uncovered and supported as it should be.
There’s no shame in discussing nor enjoying sexual pleasure and I really wish people would stop referring back to a time when it was frowned upon as we aren’t in those times now.
Defo very relaxing after having a nice play and kinda soothing too!
I’m not sure how perfectly accurate the data may be as I expect some people are not 100% truthful and maybe more so from women, historically. Whilst men generally laugh and joke about masturbation, for women it has seemed for a long time that to need or want to do it was somehow ‘slutty’ and not really discussed as much.
I think this has changed over the last 20 years or so and girls / ladies are perhaps more open to talk about it with others and we joke about it in the couples groups we hang out with, along with sex toys and other topics that were more risque until recently.
Growing up it wasn’t something that was discussed in our house as I imagine my mum was too embarrassed or conservative to talk about it, so I had to figure it out on my own. I’ve had ‘the talk’ with my daughter and let her know it’s something absolutely fine to do, if she wants to, and was not surprised to find it was something she has done already.
I could do with a few more hours in the day to fit it all.
I do a fair bit of housework and looking after our children.
My wife likes to have a lot of sleep. Her goal is 9.5 hours. She complains when she only gets 8 hours sleep.
Sex is certainly not on the cards if she’s only had 7 or 7.5 hours but with work and tidying up hard to get the jobs done, sleep in and sexy together time bit we work on it.
When she’s not been so busy and sleeping well I know she likes to masturbate with or withoht watching porn. It doesn’t take her long to cum once or twice by herself just using her fingers on her clitoris.
Concerning “talking about masturbation/sex”, if I’m not mistaking, men will talk a lot about it, but not so seriously: it’s about jokes or bragging, with exaggeration and lies sometimes. They’d talk about it to people they don’t necessarily trust, but who they don’t want to appear as “weak” or “unmanly” to, right? But on the women’s side, we avoid the topic due to social pressure, because on the contrary “it’s not very lady-like” to masturbate or to talk about that. So when we do talk about it, it’s to people we trust (so it’s not as frequent), and on serious topics. We’d more often talk about contraception’s effects on the sex drive, vaginitis, that is what goes wrong, rather than talk about what goes right.
I mean, I haven’t been a popular girl, so maybe it’s not representative.
Masturbation is in fact not related to pregnancy at all (what a twist!). Your “mother nature” never said you had to tie enjoyment in sex with procreation, just like feeding healthily with all the nutrients you need at the right proportions is not tied to how good it tastes or how hungry you are. I think you’re sipping the toxic misogynistic speech the society serves little girls, which makes them feel shame, which makes them not dare try things, hide when they do try or feel guilty or faulty about liking them. But all that doesn’t make it true that they don’t like it.
I understand you may feel defrauded @Weeradge but it happens in all areas of life with all genders and the only way to totally protect yourself is to reduce your own craving for what people appear to be offering.
I don’t feel defrauded, it’s just.life , I guess.
I still love my wife , and would marry her again in a heartbeat. I genuinely want no other woman.
lol! I promise you! She has most definitely played with herself…. And it’s a regular thing!! It may not be spoken about as much as the ‘lads in the pub chat’ but trust me… she does! Most girls won’t have a chat even with each other (though some will) about how much they made themselves cum watching a bit of free porn… but we do it! It may be she feels embarrassed to talk about it or admit to it… but I’d honestly be surprised if in her 30 years of life she has never flicked her bean x
I never did @ForbiddenFruit69 I had a sexual partner but never touched myself…I had toys but they were used by my partner on me when we were together…it was back in the 80’s and our first sex toy was ordered from a well known Sunday newspaper and we visited seedy blacked out window sex shops for VHS porn videos…lingerie etc.
Till I had a spell with a partner who was not interested in my late 30’ / 40’s and thought after a few years going without anything… I better do something about it and tried masturbation with toys.
It was never discussed about masturbation for females just the boys…and even when I was sexually active never felt the need to or even knew it was a “thing” until my sex life stopped…and someone suggested I try it. It’s not the same as intimacy with a partner but is still damn good.
He might have stolen my confidence but he wasn’t taking my sex drive too…best thing I did…as I’m enjoying sex more now than ever before…and I’m more in tune with my body and orgasms.
Better late than never I guess
Definitely better late than never! 
Agreed with below it’s not socially acceptable for women to pleasure themselves.
But there is some of us that do -edited by mod
@ForbiddenFruit69 you say that but I really doubt she has. She does know where to put my finger on her clitoris during sex which makes her cum really good but iv talked to her about it, said. I’d love her to do it to find more of her spots that only she can find. She doesn’t want to know at all