Hey Mr Pheebs! Let’s see, I can’t promise to be helpful but I’ll try. Also I am a little tired but wanted to respond so I hope it makes sense and I will check back to make sure haha.
Do you mean sexting your lovely wife? Apologies if I misunderstand but you didn’t say (or I didn’t read!).
1) I find it pretty fulfilling as well as frustrating. It is mental stimulation which is the best to me. What do you mean by risks? I’ll answer it as I understand.
Risks, it depends who you are talking to, if you can trust them and that it is consensual. You could get caught sexting which may lead to some embarrassing moments. Also how horny you get as to if you can wait, you risk ruining later if you can’t wait ha. Rewards, it can be highly sensual, stimulating, building up anticipation. It can be what you want it to be and you can do it from anywhere.
2) I have never done this but it does make for an interesting concept; how close would you need to be for that though?
3) I enjoy sexting strangers and partners if I have one (not both at the same time as most class this as cheating, if not pre arranged of course). There comes a risk with strangers as it depends what each party wants from it. I have never sexted in a multi chat room so can’t offer anything there.
4) I have sent photos, never videos or sounds. Sending and receiving pictures can be extremely fun although going back to the risks and who you are talking to, you can not unsend anything nor can you control what they do with it or who they show it to and that can lead to regret; I know this only too well from personal experience.
5) I have had phone and cam sex with partners, phone sex with a stranger although never as a “before” sexting, that kind of is the sex haha.
6) I have never done that but not because I wouldn’t, that actually sounds like a fun idea. I have worn what I have been told to wear which isn’t quite what you asked but is another fun aspect.
Argh, two 6’s!!! 😝
6 i) It really is individual to the circumstance in my opinion. So some might say no sexting other people when in a relationship while others are ok with that. Don’t share my pictures, but there is no guarantee, only word and trust which can be broken. An agreement on if it is only mental / visual or physical.
7) it can do, again it depends on the circumstance. It can be exciting, extended foreplay but if you or your partner class it as cheating then I doubt that it will improve your sex life.
8) The circumstance thing again, I am so sorry for saying those words so much but they are very important! For me, if I am in a relationship, sexting with someone else is a no, I would class it as cheating if a partner did it to me so I would not do it either. Of course if it is talked about and agreed then go for it but that is not for me. If the parties are single then it is very much a flirt to me, I won’t say harmless because of my thing about pictures and trust as well as knowing the person.
9) Consent, clear communication (guidelines), circumstance and trust are all big in sexting, to me; so long as all of that is covered, it is an exciting and fun thing to do. I enjoy doing it and would recommend giving it a go!
I hope to have helped at least a little, as I said there may be things that don’t make much sense but I will check back on that when I have had some sleep x