Glaswegian82 wrote:
ScumptiousDumptious hit several nails on the head there, ShyAndChatty. If I were you, I'd try some of the following:
1) Talk to a doctor. Depression is subtle and not always noticeable, and talking to a professional can absolutely help. I speak from experience here.
2) Make friends. Do you have an interest that you can use to join a group? Even something as simple as board gaming can be a great way to meet people! I don't know where you are in Scotland, but there are great communities of people all over the place. Finding a partner is obviously trickier, but maybe look out for singles nights? Or just try the dating sites and see what you find.
3) Take a step forward with the work situation. If you can do something positive towards starting a business, do that one thing. Then when that is done, do another thing. Build momentum with small steps towards your goal.
From all your posts here, you seem absolutely lovely, and I hope you find your way through this dark valley to the brighter uplands that await you. I have masses of hugs and the very best of wishes for you, you truly wonderful person. x
Oh thanks, i don't know why i find so difficult to go to a pro and say i need help, i just feel like i have so many issues (because i know what will be brought up) that i sort of find the excuse that there is not enough hours in the entire life to,resolve these issues
i find difficult to make friends in a way my entourage are more like my parents age as i don't seem to find here people around my age and I'm not comfortable with younger people even close to my age (omg i feel like I'm so old saying that πππ) and also I'm really interested into trying extreme sports like parachuting, bungee jumping these sorts of things but the people i know aren't, i need to find clubs but having to do it by myself just stops me which i know is ridiculous
i live in south west Scotland but quite far from everything, also the area is absolutely stunning, i chose to live away from the city as i get tired of Paris then where i was before near Edinburgh there were too many food businesses , however would have been more sensible to move here with someone but have been single all my life
will need to seriously focus on career side of life as once I've sorted that out i might find myself indestructible and ready to go out there, however saying that nothing will be done by the end of the week I'm pretty sureπ©π©π©π©π©
dating sites scare me as i feel vulnerable and scared to be tricked by manipulative people, sorry if this sounds terrible
many thanks for support and your replies π