I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years though we have broken up many times during our relationship. I recently moved away to university and there's a 4 hour distance between us. At first I thought that we would be able to work it out as we had a 1 hour distance before we moved and we managed okay. But it just seems to be going more and more tits up as the weeks go by.
I wouldn't say that we have a great relationship as we argue a lot and I find myself becoming unhappy when I'm around him. That said, this guy loves me. He would do anything for me, he's attentive, he's romantic, he's committed and he's really really trying to make it work. I love him, we've been together for so long and we were only young when we met so I find it hard to imagine my life and my future without him.
But I'm becoming a different person. I'm more confident since starting uni, I'm training into a career that is my dream and I love it though I work long hours and weekends which means I cannot see him very much. I go out with my friends and housemates and I'm quite popular with guys which has never happened before.
I live my uni life and then when I see my boyfriend I become a completely different person, more quiet, shy, reserved, timid. He says he does not like the new person that I have become and in some ways I don't either. I feel like I'm leading a double life and things are beginning to go out of my control. I have cheated on him whilst drunk which I know there is no excuse for but I feel like I'm becoming two different people and sometimes I don't know which one I am... that probably makes no sense.
I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm so confused. If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. SOrry it's a long post but it helps when I write things down.. x