As frozen Angel said, it is a myth that woman have lower sex drives than men. true, some women will have a lower drive than their male partner, but not always and sometimes it is the other way round. I am the one with the higher drive in my relationship (I am female, in a LTR with a man) Like Frozen Angel, I have also gone through that frustration and experienced the same feelings.
I think the 'average' sex life for couples was like 2 to 3 times a week, last time I read some new fandagled study, but the problem is that average is average, which means that it is the average number taken from those studied. This means there will be a huge amount of people (50%) who enjoy sex less than 2/3 times a week and a huge percentage (50%) who will enjoy it more. The scale is sliding and we all fit on it somewhere, from those who have zero interest in sex whatsoever and can live without it forever and not bat an eyelid, to those who want it multiple times a day. All normal. The only problem is finding a partner with a similar drive, which can be harder than it seems, as you may figure from the amount of men and women complaining that sex is not often enough, or reverse...that their partners pester them for sex or only want them for sex all the time. This is a mutual problem and you have to compromise, but never do what I did when I was younger and take full responsibility, like you are at fault for being one, or the other. The truth is we are all different and all 'normal' We just need to hopefully find happiness with someone that matches our own desires closely enough that we don't get frustrated and resentful. If that ever happens, communicate and compromise together.
I have had many issues with my orgasm and I still have issues to this day. I am the opposite of you though. I am fine on my own but with the pressure of pleasing a partner I struggle to orgasm. Had this issue on and off for years and I know it is psychological (I mean, I can cum fine on my own so there is nothing physically stopping me) and it is frustrating as hell yeh! Unfortunately, there is not an easy fix for mental blocks. The basic idea you need to follow are ensuring you are relaxed with him, not under any pressure, teach him how you like it and let his skills grow with time and then pushing away any negative thoughts that stop you, or block you (Like, "Oh I take too long" or "I know I won't cum" etc) and just enjoy it. Another way is to, together, remove the target of your play as being "to reach an orgasm" and instead, focus on the journey. No pressure to orgasm if you take that out the equation and just enjoy each others foreplay and not focus on the big O. These are the techniques to gradually introduce an orgasm back, or to stop negative thinking, or even mental blocking yourself. The problem is, it is quite hard to do. I am an open minded, liberal, communicative sort of woman and my partner and I talk in great detail about this and I have tried all the above, but I still suffer the problem. If I ever figure it out, I will be rich! (Lots of women have this problem, it is veryyy common! having orgasm issues of some kind)
Anyway, best of luck! Enjoy your new toys. xx