50+ year old male here thinking back through some previous relationships and current one(25 years lol) as you do sometimes to remember some of the funny times and good fun.
It then suddenly made me realize that in every relationship it has always been me who has initiated anal sex. My question is if you can remember back to your first anal experience or first anal session with a new partner who initiated it and how did you bring up the subject?
With my current partner I literally just said as we had tried most things how about trying some bum fun to which the answer was “May as well give it a go”.
Married 35 years, been with wife for 40 years. A year into us dating she said we have tried just about everything how about anal. We have never looked back. She actually prefers anal over PIV. We also have been pegging for over a decade, this was also her idea.
@TinyTom
It was me who brought up anal with my now husband many years ago as I found vaginal sex painful with him as he is very large so suggested anal - he was more than happy
I was surprised with your answer @batjamboree if he was painful in vagina I would have though more so anally. I assume you can work up to larger things anally. Its great to come up with something that works better for you. x
My experience is that not many male partners like anal.
I don’t mind it, only to please as I can’t orgasm from it …. Yet
Still, it’s pretty hot knowing how much it pleases husband. I think there’s many women in the UK that don’t, the continental ladies are all at it haha
It was me that initiated it and we took our time building up etc. Now my wife loves it so much as does orgasm all the time. Even said the orgasms are bigger for her.
First time was my first sexual relationship. It didn’t go well and we stopped … she admitted later she’d offered to impress me. I really felt for her. We didn’t try again.
Second was a long-term gf who was up for anything. She asked and I initially said no (due to that past experience). The next day I admitted I was curious … so we did. Now and then she’d ask to do it again.
Third was a one-night fling … it just sorta ended up happening. She said afterwards she didn’t expect to like it as much, but really did.
While dating my wife, we tried it for her first time … but she didn’t end up really enjoying it. We haven’t done it since … and to be honest I don’t care. I’ve never missed it
@TinyTom
I find the blunt straight forward works well with me - I remember being asked fancy an anal fu*k - I thought about it and say yes
It was me who introduced spanking to my relationship now - I bought a paddle and asked my wife to spank me - she was reluctant at first but within minutes of starting she loved it
Again same with crossdressing- I asked her if I could wear her knickers one day - she was over the moon and within weeks I had a collection to be proud of
Porn prompted my interest and I asked my husband if we could try it. He read up on the best ways (luckily) and we started with lube and a few different sized butt plugs. After a few weeks and when he thought I was ready to pop my anal cherry he very gently pushed himself in. It was a bit uncomfortable at first but with more practice it was easy to accommodate his size. We now do it quite regularly and I also peg him.
My current partner first initiated our first anal experience. I honestly accidentally nudged her other hole when we were getting into the doggy position. She cheekily turned round and said, so you want to go in there. This was my first experience and to be honest it was amazing.
