rubysoho wrote:
Naughty nurse 85 wrote:
My oh is a no no to anal! I managed to get him to use a but plug once. Took about an hour to. Get it in because he wouldn't relax and then he took it out straight away. Aparently it's an exit only hole yet he's happy to stick things up mine!
this is what makes me curious . why are men so happy .. even eager to shove it all up in our peaches but nothinh in theirs ? ( disclaimer: i know this does not apply to all men and there are some very happy butt player males on this forum , this is just a question aimed at the naysayers )
I think this is just personal choice, in that, not everything you do together must be a two way street, for example some women might love giving oral but receiving it leaves them cold, or some people like to feel pain and are happy to get spanked but others not so much. I person can fantasise about spanking their partner (or anally penetrating them) but at the same time not fancy the idea of being spanked (or anally penetrated back)
I kind of see where you are coming from though with this one. Anal sex is not something you can just bang right into (And I have experienced the guys who assumed that a little spit and a lot of pushing would lead to satisfactory anal) and I feel like they should at least experiment on their own asses to get some idea of exactly why lots of people shy away from anal with someone who is trying to rush it or isnt aware of how painful it can be if they do. My partner actually commented after he started experimenting with anal, on just how he did not realise how slow you have to be. He even apologised! lol. This theory I guess is, if you want to do something to someone else you should at least be prepared to practise and experiement on yourself to see how it feels and how not to cause injury or a bad experience. That goes for spanking instruments too.
The fact is, lots and lots of people get put off anal forever based on one or two bad experiences, usually a rushed experience that caused pain. It doesn't have to be like that but it is hard to imagine how this could be enjoyable if you have only experienced hurt. :(
The other thing that crosses my mind is the stereotype that enjoying or wanting to experience anal as a man must either mean you are secretly gay, or if not, the act will turn you gay. This is the silliest narrow minded stereotype towards sex, imo. Firstly, you don't 'catch' homosexuality, you either are or are not (or curious) and as I have said before, not all gay men even like anal penetration, and lots of gay men love blowjobs, kissing, handjobs, etc. Should we rule these out too, you know, just in case they 'turn' all men gay? It is so silly it makes me angry that men have to put up with this nonsense crap, usually spewed by narrow minded friends or internet trolls! So let's be clear gents, the sexual acts you perform do not set your sexuality anymore than liking the colour pink or Justin beiber (Also I reserve the right to mock for the last one lol) What sets your sexuality is WHO you want to do the acts with, not what you enjoy doing.
I cannot really blame guys who think this way, after all, they grow up pretty much from primary school being called benders if they so much as wear their hair long or something, and it travels with them through life, becoming something you "must not be" for fear of ridicule and scorn from peers, in much the same way as slut shaming does for females. It all sucks.
The last reason i can think of is similar to the first, that they have tried it and just do not like it at all. And thats fair enough. We all have things we do not enjoy. Although, in the same respect, I think it unfair, gents, to assume it is something ladies should be more willing to do, just because it has become popular and is in almost every porn movie available. Don't pressure your lady (Think of all the reasons you are so against getting penetrated anally. maybe she feels the same way, even if it does seem more "normal" for women to accept anal, all bums were built equal, mens and womens.) and let it go, or be prepared for her to retaliate in exactly this response: "You first" and hey, if you roll with that, good for you and maybe both of you will open doors you had never peeked into before and opened up a whole world of fun, but if it is a no, then understand, women feel quite upset if we feel you are hankering for something we just cannot do. that sucks too, but of course it works both ways. Sometimes we have to put those fantasies back in the filing cabinet of our minds and work on something else.
I still subscribe to this: "You don't know until you have tried it" :D