well I overheard my eldest telling his friend "my mum sleeps with no bra on and her boobs out!!"
Yes its true I do sleep in just a pair of knickers! Personally I think at 13 my son shouldn't be just walking into the bedroom! but really does his friend need to know?
Haha! It's just a kid thing, we always used to talk about the "weird" things our parents did. The walking in the bedroom thing, just talk to him, tell him that because he's growing up you won't walk into his room without knocking and cause you're a grown up he should do the same.
I think he doesn't need to know.I don't have any kids,so I don't really have practical experience with them,but maybe you should talk to him about respecting your privacy more.
While his friend indeed does not HAVE to know, I remember that when I was a young teenager, boys at school kept on swapping stories about seeing their mums/sisters in their altogether all the time...I guess that boys of 13 often think it is kind of cool that they have already seen a real naked woman, and they just feel the need to share their fab experience with their peers.
I guess I should start sleeping in pjs huh?
i just get so hot and sweaty at night (not in the rude way)
No course not, just talk to him, explain why it embarresed you and that you both need to respect eachothers privacy. I say this because I don't know how you treat him. It's alright you saying he shouldn't walk in your room when you do the same.
Young and fun95 wrote:
No course not, just talk to him, explain why it embarresed you and that you both need to respect eachothers privacy. I say this because I don't know how you treat him. It's alright you saying he shouldn't walk in your room when you do the same.
I dont want to go in there lol, it smells like a teenagers room!
He'll grow out of sharing such things with his friends once he starts dating and pursuing girls, I guess.
A friendly talk about the importance of privacy might be a good thing but frankly, I wouldn't really worry. Nakedness of non-sexual nature shouldn't really be a taboo among family members, privacy is important, of course, but a glimpse of a nude body should be viewed as something "normal", not as something wicked or wrong.
Having had a 13 year old who thought our bed was an extension of the rest of the house somewhere where he could just walk into and look randomly at things at matter what we said, Its hard to get kids to understand..
But yes kids love to talk about seeing each others mum's sisters aunts cousins especially if your classed as a "Milf" in there books etc.
I think at 13 Kids are starting to get an interest in sex too so boobs etc are a great discussion for boys.
i have an 7 year old daughter so its hard keeping their discussions from her! lol
Hopefully he hasn't already told her I know my litlle terror of a son would of done.
At 13 most boys seem to be obsessed by boobs! But I do think you should have a talk with him about respecting each other's privacy and not just walking in to bedrooms without knocking first.
He probably thought his mate would be well impressed that he has seen real live boobs even if they do belong to his mum!
oh dear PA... not nice to have to go through. But at the end of the day it's your choice and you should be entitled to that whether your son thinks its weird or not. He's also at a delicate age where sex is becoming a big thing I guess, so another option would be to talk to him maybe?
I think it's his age! I know my 10 year old step son has discovered boobs and gets embarrassed. I've had to start wearing bigger tops to cover my cleavage when he's at home because I have caught him looking lol.
I let my son and daughter see me naked. Okay, they are not teenagers yet (and I imagine at that point, they would run a mile at seeing mums bits) but until that day arrives, I am hoping that they will grow up with the image of what a naked woman looks like. Scars, tiger stripes, cellulite, wobbly bits and all. Kinda hoping they will then grow up with a more reasonable standard of female form or beauty than the ones I am sure my son will furtively see on a PC in his room in a few years time lol, or my daughter will be forced to believe she needs to be. I also hope that in having "no shame" in my body, that they will feel more confident in their bodies and not feel like the body, or personal flaws, are something to be ashamed by. A losing battle maybe, but one I am prepared to fight in my own little ways lol.
Im having the "personal privacy" issue at the moment with my daughter, who likes to talk about EVERY area of her body with anyone who will listen. I think it is a kid thing...especially if you fluster or look awkward or embarrassed, they realise "wait a minute, this is a big deal" and play up to it more. I tried brushing it off as no big deal, but had to have a word about keeping some details private, or to tell mum only. Its kinda difficult to know how best to deal with it, without shaming them or making it worse lol
Fluffbags wrote:
I let my son and daughter see me naked. Okay, they are not teenagers yet (and I imagine at that point, they would run a mile at seeing mums bits) but until that day arrives, I am hoping that they will grow up with the image of what a naked woman looks like. Scars, tiger stripes, cellulite, wobbly bits and all. Kinda hoping they will then grow up with a more reasonable standard of female form or beauty than the ones I am sure my son will furtively see on a PC in his room in a few years time lol, or my daughter will be forced to believe she needs to be. I also hope that in having "no shame" in my body, that they will feel more confident in their bodies and not feel like the body, or personal flaws, are something to be ashamed by. A losing battle maybe, but one I am prepared to fight in my own little ways lol.
Exactly the approach I would adopt myself if I had kids. I have read a number of psychological articles on the subject of youngsters being only used to perfect, airbrushed models and slim pornstars with round silicone boobs. Some of them apparently suffer (quite unnecessarily, one might say) from various sex-related issues, they sometimes cannot get aroused when they see a "normal", "imperfect" woman, or get totally shocked when they find out their girlfriend, however beautiful she may be, isn't perfectly shaved/waxed ALL the time. And girls get scared that if they don't wear make-up that covers even the tiniest blemishes 24/7, their boyfriends are going to leave them... (Ah well, and when I think about it, even among my peers the "standards" of beauty are so high that I myself am considered "not shapely enough" to date, too.)
My mum sleeps in knickers, that's since as far back as I can remember! At 11/12 I was told to knock on the door & wait before going into her room for privacy reasons & she would do the same (which she never held up her soide of the bargain) To this day I still get a little embarassed, but it's very rarely she does it now. If you want to wear/or not wear what you want in your own home then it's up to you, you're the adult ^_^ x
Thanks guys guess the boobies can stay free lol
pinkanimal wrote:
well I overheard my eldest telling his friend "my mum sleeps with no bra on and her boobs out!!"
Yes its true I do sleep in just a pair of knickers! Personally I think at 13 my son shouldn't be just walking into the bedroom! but really does his friend need to know?
Pinkanimal, as a mother of 2 early 20 year olds, I too had this scenario.Son's friends seemed obsessed with my boobs as teenagers, made me laugh how embarassed they could get round me.
As for boundaries, he will understand soon enough about bedroom privacy, if you go into his bedroom at an inopportune moment...
Totally agree with fluffbag. Pink if you feel confident with the girls out then do it. I remember both my parents walking from their bedroom into the bathroom in the mornings completely naked and never making a big deal about it. They didn't so much as flaunt it but more didn't make if an issue. My sister and I are the only ones out of our girly friends who could be considered body confident we have our wobbly bits from having kids etc but I love my body as it is and do no in any way feel ashamed/embarrassed by it. I have adopted the same approach with my daughter and although she has made me blush a could of times with you have a spot of your booby don't you mum? In the middle of tesco (I have a freckle near my nipple!) to her its normal and I like that she will know that real bodies aren't perfect as she grows.