So I'm not too bad at dirty talk during sex, it's not a massive thing just a little bit here and there. But last night we were using OHs new realistic stroker and he asked me tell her to fuck him, like this stroker was another woman, I have no problem with the fact he was imagining another woman, but I have no idea what to say. I kind of got awkwardly shy then manned up and all I could think of was "fuck him hard" "don't let him cum yet, make him beg" any ideas of what I can say? Or anything else I can do to make it more realistic?
"What are you making for our tea tonight then?" :p
I think you'rre going along the right lines. Also, and if you and your OH are into this kind of fantasy - I know we are - you could giving 'her' some girl on girl patter. That'd be a pretty nice image for him to have in his head as he cums, I'm sure.
Ooh I like that idea, didn't think of that, thanks :)
I'm not going to let you come until you've taken the bins out.
It's very horny to have your woman talk to you when having sex. It's nice to be told to do things.
What ever you do don't come yet I am not ready I am enjoying what I'm doing to much and I don't want to have to stop yet.
Then to be told to come is a massive turn on. Even begging and pleading for it is a huge turn on.
I want your come , give it to me now, I want to see and feel it., please come for me .
Hope this gives a few ideas. Don't get hung up on it or feel silly it's all great.
Young and fun95 wrote:
I have no problem with the fact he was imagining another woman
Wow, my missus would be totally not okay with that. I think she'd get really angry/upset/insecure.
Hehe! I love this kind of roleplay. We have indulged in similar, where I have made him imagine he is having sex with a random girl he knows/knew, up to and including gender switching role play.
My advice:
It's not easy. Not at first anyway. Anything new is a bit intimidating and puts us on the spot. We have all been there, so you are not alone or abnormal...you are just new to this.
I find the best way to conjure up what to say next is to go into your imagination and play our the fantasy yourself. It might be his fantasy you are fulfilling, but if you go into your head and imagine how it might play out, it gives you ideas of what to say.
Here are some ideas to make it more "real":
Give the girl a name. Make him call her by that name and moan that name.
Imagine you are directing this scene, or that you are the dominant or one in control of his pleasure and you are "using" this "woman" to do your bidding.
Try and work out what aspects of the threesome idea turn him on. That way you can play up to his turn-ons. Does it feel naughty, like he is cheating, or does he feel more studly having two women see to him etc.
Some ideas for making him feel naughty/slightly humiliated in a hot way, while simultaneously making him imagine hot thoughts:
"Tell me what it feels like inside her"
"Do you like me watching you **** another woman"
"Are you getting close? You better not cum inside her...thats against the rules (Then make him - obviously)
"Which one of us feels tighter/wetter"
Give the other woman a name and make him use it when referring to her.
For acting out the role where you are directing the other woman, if he wants you to refer to her as though she is there. Prentend you are directing a porn scene, or directing out the hot sex you imagine having with him, but have her do it:
Tell her to slow down because A) he is too exciteable tut! B) You want his cum inside you C) to tease him like he deserves.
Ask her to describe him! (This is where it gets a bit "multiple personalites at one time lol)
"Does he feel good inside you?...ohhh you can't feel it?...hes too small...I understand..sighhhh" (Lol sorry. My own sadistic side coming out now lol) Prob best to describe how amazing he feels.
Ask him to penetrate her in a different position (and make him get into said position).
But if in doubt...turn the tables and make him do the work. Make him beg for it, make him ask her if he can go inside. Make him describe how he feels, how it feels and if it is your bag, tell him how dirty he is for having such thoughts.
Blindfold him: There is so much more you can have him believe when he cannot see whats going on. You could use the stroker and at the same time stroke his balls but direct "her" to fck him while you stroke/lick his balls. You could sit on his face and demand he lick you while "she" fucks him. (and describe to him how you are stroking her boobs, or playing with her clit - bonus points if you actually do attempt to stroke her clit and he can feel your hand down there). You can even pretend the stroker is now "you" and he is licking "her" pussy..and so on. You are more free to pretend with the blindfold on and also, when he can't see you, if you do lose your chain of thought or what to do next, you can just sit and think for a minute while he lies there wondering what is coming next. Without the blindfold, you have to be more "physically" there in the moment as well.
It is a difficult one he is asking you to act out, as director of a threesome and also putting all the words out there, so if needed, here is a way to simplify it: remove the use of the "other woman" and use the toy as is. It might be just as much fun to tease him about getting off inside the toy, and using it to edge him while at the same time making him feel naughty because it's not you. With the toy as "just a toy" you can also play up to the fact by making him stand in front of a mirror while he uses it, or you use it on him, telling him to watch himself. You can even lie next to him, hand it and say "come on then. let me see what kind of dirty things you do to yourself when I'm not here" and watch him use it.
The idea is simply to make him feel naughty - it heightens the thrill I think.
Also...the more you do it, the easier it gets. A few years ago I couldn't even say "left a bit" during sex...but now I can strap-on and act like a dude, just to mind fuck him and make him feel naughty. (I even demand he call me sir - its the little details) Ask me to do that those years ago I would have fainted lol. It does get easier with practice. Remember too that it is okay to laugh. Fits of hysterics are allowed and welcomed when roleplaying. Just have fun and once the laughing subsides, get right back into it, maybe with even more humour and wit than before because you now feel more relaxed. :D
Have fun!
Fluffbags you've made that scene sound incredibly exciting ! It was something I'd never considered doing before but I just might now. Brilliant advice :)
+1! Something I'd not thought of either but sounds brilliant! Definitely excellent advice!wildflower wrote:
Fluffbags you've made that scene sound incredibly exciting ! It was something I'd never considered doing before but I just might now. Brilliant advice :)
butterflybee wrote:
+1! Something I'd not thought of either but sounds brilliant! Definitely excellent advice!wildflower wrote:
Fluffbags you've made that scene sound incredibly exciting ! It was something I'd never considered doing before but I just might now. Brilliant advice :)
I think we will have to blow the dust off the 'Fleshlite' Brilliant Fluffbags brilliant. x
Wow, seriously, I actually thought getting one for my OH would make me feel insecure to it but after reading that, I want to try this out.. Thank you Y&F for posting this question and thank you Fluffbags for serious food for thought... Wow!! Excellent advice.. X
Awesome guys thank you :) will try again at the weekend
LittleSwitchBitch wrote:
Wow, seriously, I actually thought getting one for my OH would make me feel insecure to it but after reading that, I want to try this out.. Thank you Y&F for posting this question and thank you Fluffbags for serious food for thought... Wow!! Excellent advice.. X
Ahhhh please don't feel intimidated by male toys. Just think what its like with female toys....they can give us orgasms, sometimes quicker, sometimes intense and its a different sensation to enjoy, but nothing compares to the feel of a partners warm hands/tongue/body. Toys are not competition, but should definitely spice up what you have together as a couple. I highly recommend male toys and using them to blow his mind (and yours! It is hot watching your partner get off). I can assure you, most men feel the same about their toys as we do about ours, which is that they are a lot of fun, but we wouldnt choose them over the connection we have with a person.
I'm happy to use a stroker but I can't pretend it's a girl lol ill be wetting myself with laughter!
That's so true... As much as I love using toys, human contact is million times better.. Have one in my shopping basket to get for him when I come back from hols.. Actually put it in there after reading ur other post the other night.. Thank you X x
LittleSwitchBitch wrote:
That's so true... As much as I love using toys, human contact is million times better.. Have one in my shopping basket to get for him when I come back from hols.. Actually put it in there after reading ur other post the other night.. Thank you X x
You are welcome. Has he ever used a toy before or told you how he feels about it? If not, just a little heads - up, some men can feel very strange using a toy at first. There is just more stigma around their use than there is for us women (which sucks). Point him in the direction of some great articles and reviews, research the facts from the fiction so you can pass that along to him and let him know how amazingly hot you find the idea, to help put his mind at ease a little if he does feel a bit strange about it. My guy did at first and I was surprised by that! It never crossed my mind at the time how it seems from the male view point. (and when media and friends push the idea that male toys are for sad, lonely old men, its no wonder really *stabs*) I wrote a whole ranty article about male toys on my blog that might help you as well, if needed: http://thegrittywoman.com/Male-sex-toys-truth-lies
But hopefully he will be drawn to the idea and you guys will have a blast :D
No hun, he's never used them... Any toys we've got are for me or us but none for him and I'd been toying with the idea for ages if I should or shouldn't, I guess part of my insecurity comes from having three kids naturally.. But I really want him to have something to play with and I've a good feeling it could complete the circle for us.. I think he is fairly open to the idea. I've just read ur article (am now going snooping through the rest of ur blog too) and I'm gonna show him the various items just intended for him :) will keep u updated how we get on, thank you x
LittleSwitchBitch wrote:
No hun, he's never used them... Any toys we've got are for me or us but none for him and I'd been toying with the idea for ages if I should or shouldn't, I guess part of my insecurity comes from having three kids naturally.. But I really want him to have something to play with and I've a good feeling it could complete the circle for us.. I think he is fairly open to the idea. I've just read ur article (am now going snooping through the rest of ur blog too) and I'm gonna show him the various items just intended for him :) will keep u updated how we get on, thank you x
Good luck! :D