When my partner asks me to talk dirty in bedroom i find it hard to talk about anything diffrent then the same old senario is it okay to keep using tje same one?
Thanks
Alicia4Ever wrote:
Talk to her, find out what she likes, dislikes about dirty talk. I don't know what you say to her but if you for example have been calling her a slut, and she would prefer to be called a whore, and you hae never spoken about it, she may just be letting you call her that because she thinks you like it.
There is nothing wrong with sticking to what you know, or changing things up, it's what ever works for you both.
But talk about it, if you don't already, which you posting here suggests, and maybe talk about other aspects of your sex life too.
As this really. The only thing I would respectfully disagree on is the use of the word "slut" and "whore" . None of my previous partners or my current partner would liked to be called that under any circumstances . Ony once I have used the term "slut" and that was in a roleplay and was ageed beforehand .
But variety is the spice of life. Perhaps a technique you could try and I use this in roleplaying is to practice in front of a mirror .
Would you guys use porn film senerios?
I did ask if we could have used a butt plug too but when i asked she went very quiet and i instantly took that as a big fat no
Bigwanger69 wrote:
Would you guys use porn film senerios?
You could do for ideas. Or is the intention to act the whole scenario out in a similar way to a Role Play ? If for the latter then you would need to edit out the words that would clearly offend your OH and replace them with your own choices.
Bigwanger69 wrote:
I did ask if we could have used a butt plug too but when i asked she went very quiet and i instantly took that as a big fat no
Something like that needs to be discussed well in advance.
Cheers
Is there any toys out there that could help with my imagination?
Bigwanger69 wrote:
Is there any toys out there that could help with my imagination?
Again before you start splashing the cash on various toys you need to have a chat with your OH on what she likes. That may not be the same as what you like. After the chat then look at the site together and make a list of possible items .Then splash the cash !
Haha okay good advice thanks was going to ask what senarios you used if you did but understand thats private to you so thanks for your help
Ahh cool thanks they look like they could help just really rubbish at stuff like this
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Have a chat with her if you can about her interpretation of "talking dirty". She might just want you to describe what you are doing, want to do, how it makes you feel etc but equally she might want complete filth!
I would start with talking about what your doing and if you get a good reaction than go further and get a bit more graphic.
I have no experience of "dirty talk" with my OH, but I have found lately that good open conversation is very important to avoid mis-understandings and actually helps bring you closer together.
You may wish to be a little more formal and jointly write down a list of acceptable or unacceptable words and topics when "talking dirty". Having a conversation on this up front when out of the bedroom would be best. Just having that chat about words/topics will help you understand each other better. Good luck.
I love dirty talk both hearing and using it , but generally get told not to talk with my mouth full.
I have a HUGE vocabulary lol
Gentle giant wrote:
I love dirty talk both hearing and using it , but generally get told not to talk with my mouth full.
I have a HUGE vocabulary lol
That made me laugh Gentle Giant.
I bet you do.