I must admit, the thought of my wife pegging me is really exciting. However, I'm new to anal play and haven't been brave enought to raise the topic. Any ideas or any tips from anyone who is active in this way?
I brought up this topic by letting my OH "catch" me reading websites about prostate stimiuation, then I talked about wondering what it feels like, after seeing her reaction (it was cautious but positive) we then worked our way up from fingers to toys. Just a strap on to go now :)
As far as tips go, if you get to toys, start very small and use lots of lube. Stop if any pain starts, you could cause damage.
I don't think I'd object to a nice pegging. Think it'd feel hot :)
I suspect buying a strap-on and handing it to my GF would be a somewhat abrupt suggestion though :)
Is she open to anal herself and does she enjoy receiving? If so you can say she looks like she's enjoying it a lot and you would like to see why.
Watching this with interest as this is something I also think about a lot, I don't even know how to start the conversation with my wife as I think she would worry "is he gay/bi>", Good luck.
My girlfriend has masaged my prostate a few times, the best orgasm I ever have. Suggested pegging, didn't say no or yes, so hopefully someday :D
It's always a bit of a conundrum this one, how to introduce it to the wife or girlfriend. Having known my wife for 32 years and apart from a ten year gap in those years we have always been together. We went out with each other as teenagers before eventually getting back together again and getting married. Our relationship and specifically sexual one has been amazing and has over the years progressed from the norm if you want to put it that way to using numerous and varied sex toys, even from the very begining of our days together. We have also enjoyed lots of porn together and that too has moved to the more extereme although really is just the norm in so many ways today. So apart from lots of toys, some extremely very big ones, enjoying anal sex, peeing, squirting and fisting and of course dressing up it has been a process over those years in which each of us is extremely comfortable with each other and also what we do with each other. I think that you get to know what you could or could not suggest dependent very much upon how you are with each other. I cannot imagine that a couple who just have sex together and do not use sex toys or watch porn will find that if the male partner suddenly says I want to be pegged that she is going to be very receptive to the idea.
As far as the anal side of things go we didn't actually get into that until 16 odd years ago and in fact it was my wife to be who first inserted a finger up me, which I have to say I found really enjoyable. Again though i think because of our years together previously and knowing how dirty she and I are with each other she clearly thought she could get away with it. This actually led onto us starting out having lots of anal sex but with my wife being the receiver. I think it is also fair to say that we used to watch quite a lot of porn featuring anal. Over the years we progressed as said with all the toys, moving onto squirting and fisting of her vagina and also butt, but we were not actually doing anything to me.
A few years ago I actually tried one of her toys, I think a glass one on myself when she was out and it was very enjoyable.
To cut a very long story short from recollection during one of our sessiosn I gave her one of the glass toys to use on me, which being so whiped up she did and we both really enjoyed it. We have since then continued with this sort of fun and in fact as she can see that I love her 'dominating' me in this way she really gets off on it too.
Whilst looking through the LH website with her one morning in bed I asked if she would be up for trying some pegging. She said yes so I sorted a strap on peg out. Ironically although I enjoyed it she didn't find it that stimulating so after a few goes we don't do it anymore but just stick with the various toys, fingers and fisting.
Being able to do these and suggest these things I think depends on not only where you are in terms of your sexual relationship with each other but also your non sexual relationship, how comfortable and at ease you are with each other and perhaps an understanding of how they would react if you suggested such a thing but there is always that having to take a leap.
Up shot is that I think unless you are already having anal sex of some kind they may struggle with it but one thing it doesn't make you is gay or bisexual so you can assure them of that if that is what they may worry about.
Hope this helps a bit.
Thx for sharing kc.
just out of curiosity, would it not make a little more sense to use a double ended shaft so what the wonderful lady doing the thrusting also received?
It is something that you could certainly do but I actually think my wife gets off in being the giver of the pleasure so to speak. This doesn't prevent her though from sitting on one of the various toys that we have to hand. She is in more control and certainly able to thrust with more control since much of the time it is her hand or fist.
I think it totally depends on what sort of sex life you have. If she's very tame it is always going to be a struggle, if you guys are quite experimental then work towards it slowly. You don't need to jump straight in to pegging, maybe buy his & hers plugs as a kind of joke present and use them on each other. make sure she knows it drives you crazy having HER play with your butt. Not just that you like anal but specifically that it's her turning you on by teasing you.
Make sure she knows about the prostate being the equivalent of the G spot, and that in no way is it out of the ordinary to enjoy having one of your most sensitive areas played with. I'd try working up through regular butt play, to her being a bit dominant, tying you up and using plugs or a dildo on you, and eventually the natural progression will be towards pegging. I have 'accidentally' put on some pegging porn in the past once a girlfriend has become totally comfortable with anal, and more often than not it'll turn them on seeing how dominant they could be, and they'll suggest it.
Attitude is definitely mportant though. The more nervous you are about bringing it up, or the more kinky or unusual you treat it as the more she'll fall into that viewpoint too. So just discuss it like it's the most natural thing in the world.
This may help .
My OH and myself have started down the pegging road but it has take time and as a few people have said take it easy , a little anal play and maybe a finger or some plugs
MY OH love to as we call it dry run this is going through the play with no strap on on she love to get on top and between my legs and start to do what you would with a toy but then without the toys make her go crazy and turn's her on .
after doing this for a few time then the next step was with a strap on , but this also takes time and we have had a few time with and she is getting into the hole pegging play but she does not like the stopping and putting on the strap on , she thinks it kills the mood a little .and she not got into the full swing on putting it on before as she like to see which way the play is going to go .
So take it easy , dry run if this helps and take it step for step
Just wanted to thank everyone for their advice. We have broached the subject, so watch this space!
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Thx for sharing kc.
just out of curiosity, would it not make a little more sense to use a double ended shaft so what the wonderful lady doing the thrusting also received?
Strapless strap-ons can be incredibly hard to use and can cause the woman (and probably the man) a fair bit of discomfort!
I started with one but then got a harness and the harness is so much easier for me to use its unreal! Also it has a pocket for a bullet so i can still enjoy the vibes.
One day i plan om using the strapless again as its a good product but i think until i master the art of thrusting and the correct angles and depth, the harness is better.