tronic wrote:
Hi you lot, so much useful stuff, I thank you.
As for helping her find herself, I don't know what to do now. She's been and done horse riding, we bought 2 dogs and 2 cats, kennels, all to help with her depression and so on. Now she won't even walk the dogs and it's almost all left to me to deal with. We arranged for her to take 6 months off work to get her head together, so I took on all the bills etc. and burrowed a bit deeper into my debt-hole. The 6 months became 10 months, and during that time she didn't really do anything! I was working my bollocks off at the time to make ends meet so I admit I wasn't taking her out as much and so on, but there we go. Things got worse if anything during that time. I understand how depression can affect a person and I'm going through some stuff right now, but I'm not stopping with myself til it's fixed - I'm aware that wallowing around doing nothing will only perpetuate the vicious cycle of depression and intervention is necessary. For some reason she doesn't see things the same way, and thinks it will somehow work itself out.
You've got your head screwed on!
And you've done a lot for your OH!
You should be proud of that at the very least. And you should start putting yourself first - it seems like she's putting herself first so why shouldn't you?!
*Big hugs* lovely (and you are certainly lovely External Media)
Hope something gets figured out some how!
Axxx