Herbal as in the aphrodisiac stuff. I read about Spanish fly and ginseng etc. Had a good night last night and starting to train my mind to just enjoy. Jessica rabbit pretty good girl :D
I think the playing around and sex beforehand is just as good/important as my orgasm. An orgasm lasts under a minute but all that lovely build up can go on for hours or all day if you like. Porn definitely get me there more quickly.
I wouldn't use spanish fly...I've never really been turned on by death...
http://www.vortexhealth.com/spanish_fly.html
I think there might be dodgy alternatives but in that case you don't know whats in them.
I personally wouldn't trust aphrodisiacs. Alot of it is hear'say or placebo... Actually the only real aphro that I can think of is alcohol!
For some reason which isn't fully understood alcohol increases testosterone in females but lowers it in males. So alcohol makes many men friendly drunks and women horny and aggresive!
It seems a glass to 'loosen' youself up really does seem to work. I know my girl gets super horny after a drink.
WandA wrote:
I wouldn't use spanish fly...I've never really been turned on by death...
LOL all that grey flesh! mmmm yummy :P (not) I'll check out that url.
Yeah Avrielle, my husband and I recently joined here after spotting it while shopping :) m3nf is my husband, he's been posting around a fair bit now. Getting horny isn't a problem, it's getting past that hump. I guess just gotta enjoy the ride n forget about the big 'O' really. Maybe it will coming in time (hehe no pun intended) or maybe not. It's good feelings either way :)
I've discovered something magic recently. Don't just lie there enjoying what's happening to you. Think about it and how good it feels (just how good it is, don't bring orgasms into it). When you do that, I've found it feels better, and it builds up more. The first time I tried this was actually the first time my boyfriend gave me a vibrator induced orgasm, and he'd been trying for a few months! So I can say it definitely works :P
*nods* I noticed that recently myself.
My girlfriend has lots of "little orgasms".. getting her to have a big one takes time... we have to go up in levels. get close, then slow down again, then try again.. each time she relaxes a bit more and it gets closer.. being drunk definitely seems to help... and having sex for a second time after half an hour or so, nearly always works...
Salvadore wrote:
My girlfriend has lots of "little orgasms".. getting her to have a big one takes time... we have to go up in levels. get close, then slow down again, then try again.. each time she relaxes a bit more and it gets closer.. being drunk definitely seems to help... and having sex for a second time after half an hour or so, nearly always works...
Similar for me... my girl finds it extremely difficult to relax and not worry.... shes a natural worrier, so is more concerned about my neck, cramp, how long it takes etc...
Shes more likely to cum when 69n than regular oral simply because shes distracted!
Relaxation seems to be very hard for her!
Yes being relaxed is definately an issue! But to be perfectly honest....there are some girls who would simply prefer the sex without the orgasm....generally I probably orgasm about 1 in 5 times? perhaps less than that....but knowing that my fella is ok with that takes the pressure off and helps me relax, the "play" is usually enough to satisfy me! And my trusty toy is always close by if I need to "let off steam" but am having difficulties!
Ecksvie wrote:
I've discovered something magic recently. Don't just lie there enjoying what's happening to you. Think about it and how good it feels (just how good it is, don't bring orgasms into it). When you do that, I've found it feels better, and it builds up more. The first time I tried this was actually the first time my boyfriend gave me a vibrator induced orgasm, and he'd been trying for a few months! So I can say it definitely works :P
This definately helps me! A story, or thinking of what is happening as a story really helps me relax and get into the right frame of mind!
Ecksvie wrote:
I've discovered something magic recently. Don't just lie there enjoying what's happening to you. Think about it and how good it feels (just how good it is, don't bring orgasms into it). When you do that, I've found it feels better, and it builds up more. The first time I tried this was actually the first time my boyfriend gave me a vibrator induced orgasm, and he'd been trying for a few months! So I can say it definitely works :P
Ah, this gets me close, too. I've found just simply kissing on the mouth really heightens everything, too. I think it's easy to get so caught up in the positions and how it all feels down there, that you forget just to kiss, and because you have to concentrate while... distracted by other sensations, it makes it all the more intense.
Hi i have always found it really easy to reach a clitoral orgasm but i wanted a vaginal orgasm, when we are having a long session my husband toches a spot really deep inside, it is like you described like almost sneesing, it's so powerful i can't control myself! but it always feels like i'm almost there. The other night he kept on and on (we usually give up and i think nothing is going to happen) anyway i was all over the place really enjoying myself and i squirted! sorry if this is tmi! But there was no increase in pleasure so i'm not sure if i am having vaginal ogasms. I had a look and it says that the G spot is just a couple of inches in to the vagina but this is really deep so i'm not sure what it is! Sorry i'm not much help! I have to say to if i start thinking about how long it's taking to come i take much longer so i find it better if i do lots of foreplay to DH first to get myself in the mood.
Ecksvie, that is brilliant advice on the relaxation. I've found reading other women's experiences of masturbation has really educated me about why my body works the way it does and how to work with it rather than against it. The Hite Report is a fantastic read I would recommend to everyone. http://www.amazon.com/Hite-Report-National-Female-Sexuality/dp/1583225692
It was this report that outlined 6 techniques women generally use and you can read them here(sorry for the ridiculous illustration at the top) http://www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/methods_of_female_masturbation.htm
If you're having difficulty in breaking through to the other side so to speak you might want to try squeezing your kegal muscles together when you reach the crucial moment and tensing the muscles in your legs and behind.
I'm not sure if I have really experienced an orgasm (via penetration). Although having said that, I rarely sometimes feel like a wave type of pleasure coming over/through me, and it makes me feel a little light headed as though I'm about to start seeing stars! lol. But it's not quite a release or strong enough like a clitoral orgasm. This is sometimes mainly when I stimulate my g-spot or vaginal walls near the entrance with a dildo though. Is that an orgasm? If so, what's all the hype about?! It feels good but not overwhelming.
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Great links there Tiger lilies. Might pop that book on my birthday list from my oh lol