For me it is stepping out of my everyday life, whatever roleplay it is we’re doing. I love him tying me up with rope, cuffing me, or using the underbed restraints and being spanked so hard that he’s leaving me red raw, throbbing and stinging. I want to be dominated by him and him ordering me about, the fear and adrenaline rushing through me just adds to the excitement.
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School girl play really isn’t for me.
Numerous reasons I won’t go into. However slave, secretary with the same domination theme are fine. Thinking about it slavery is horrifying.
As always zero judgement here, each to their own x
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Neither me or my OH are into it. My OH says it reminds him of pre pubescent girls and finds it off putting.
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You clearly don’t understand how bizarre that sounds. There’s nothing wrong with adults (over the legal age of consent) doing things consensually. So your previous paragraph about role play between consenting happy adults is fine. The term CNC is frankly appauling because something is either consensual (and legal) or non-consensual (and illegal). If what you’re doing is the “C” part then the “NC” has absolutely nothing to do with it, so it’s a completely ridiculous term. In a similar manner, if we’re talking about - to quote you - “adults” then I’m afraid schoolgirls or school pupils - of any description - is not that.
To get back on topic the original question of this thread was whether people felt comfy about school pupil role play. Personally I don’t, for reasons I’ve stated. I’m not saying it’s illegal if it’s between consenting adults, because it isn’t. But to me it’s not something I find appropriate and I think any reasons given (eg short skirts are sexy) you can very easily do with other role play outfits like a secretary.
Her response is not appalling at all. Imo men or women who get turned on by someone pretending to be a schoolgirl or even a schoolboy screams red flags to me and their mind set.
I often see “Oh I wouldn’t do anything illegal” then why do they get turned on by it to begin with? Regardless of it being consensual.
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@FireCracker89 i didn’t say her response was appauling, I said I think the term CNC (which is widespread and not something she has come up with) is. Obviously that’s also my personal view.
@Shagger11 and @Cupc8kes both have valid points.
I think there are some unhealthy things about NC sexual activity that is attractive in your own mind, but in reality, you know is not attainable nor acceptable in real life.
For example, I can fantasize about my buddy’s girl… I can jack off to thinking about her or forcing myself on her, but that isn’t reality. I can also imagine if she forced herself on me sexually, but the chances of that happening are ZERO. I can dream about getting it on with the boss at work but the only way that will happen is in a roleplay scenario, otherwise 1000 times out of 1000 you won’t have a job the next day.
I think roleplay is fun, exciting and intriguing, but in reality (real life) it isn’t any of those things if you act on it. It could be illegal, dangerous and obviously if something in a fantasy world took place, it would be likely unsustainable.
There is behaviour that takes place where people have no ability to control their actions, to keep things fantasy that are just that, pure fantasy. Is it healthy? Maybe if it keeps you from having underage sex with NC adults (or minor in a terrible consequence). Likely though, it isn’t healthy. People like gore parties where they murder each other and have sex dressed as dead people. In real life, if you have sex with a corpse, you go to jail.
The point is that caution needs to be taken in every choice we make.
I think the only school-boy outfit is AC/DC’s lead singer where I doubt anyone fantasized about him. Yes, there are male nurses, doctors, fire “people” (pretty rare to hear of someone having a fantasy about a lady firefighter but I suppose it is a thing) but put into perspective, if kept in check, fantasy is just that. What about Cosplay and everything related to that? Many times it portrays a human dressed as an animal or a child… All illegal in most countries.
Just my two cents. Can’t be too sensitive… but can’t let fake things overtake your life.
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Some good points @valbowski77
What about all the people who enjoy watching incestuous pornography or who like to Roleplay daddy/daughter scenarios (again it’s all fake and being acted out only).
Everyone has different kinks and enjoys different things for different reasons.
You don’t have to feel bad about them, and you don’t have to enjoy the same things as everyone else.
That’s what makes us all unique.
A while ago I was watching porn, when the guy started calling the woman mummy and saying the most crazy things to ‘his mum’ - I had to turn it off in an instant because it just didn’t seem right to me.
But with the whole school thing - it’s different for me.
It is one of the most popular themes that you will come across whether it’s for: club nights, hen parties, fancy dress, nights out.
Many people seem to enjoy it in a positive (non paedoey) way, just as I do.
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Consensual non consent = fantasy non consent. They is to say it‘s not actually non-consensual at all! The submissive player is always in charge.
Safewords or another way to stop the play are essential.
Lots of people learn real agency and power in their everyday lives, through being able to roleplay situations involving dominating and controlling behaviour with someone they can trust not to actually dominate or abuse them for real.
For many people this kink is an opportunity to relinquish day-to-day responsibilities and decision making.
Similarly, cosplay and roleplay involving school outfits can represent relinquishing adult responsibilities, again with someone the can trust.
To conflate CNC roleplaying with real world abuse, violence and rape is as mistaken in my opinion as conflating cosplay and roleplay involving regression to child-like behaviours, with actual paedophilia and child abuse.
Both conflations are wrong. The latter in each case is very real, completely abhorrent, and criminal. The former, just consensual fantasy roleplay, done with irony, with love, and mutual respect, between consenting adults.
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Ac/Dc guitarist rather than singer.
Sorry, couldn’t help myself, music nerd here.
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Still not a fantasy for many I doubt… great for Halloween, not so much for the bedroom lol
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Read a lot of comments regarding this subject. During the 90’s there used to be night club themed nights, one of which of which was a School night. This was whereby couples would dress as they did during that time, or dress envisioned as to how it should be. Black eyes, plaster on glasses, torn tights ect. Those themed evenings were quite popular back at that time, quite a few clubs held those evenings. Not so much now for obvious reasons, how things have changed and for obvious reasons.
Never went to one my self, but they were a monthly event.
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I’d definitely like to play
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The schoolgirl role play always felt wrong to me, until recent times. We did college student/tutor role plays, and it doesn’t take much to get to schoolgirl. I have come to love it.
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@KinkyMira …Ive always felt uncomfortable about it , due to obvious connotations.
The St Trinnians look was fine, as most of them were in their 30’s
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Oh my, I thought your question was straight forward. It’s naughty and fun. Enables you to loose inhibitions and have fun with your SO
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Not really into ro!e play but have ordered the french maid outfit to dabble a bit. School pupil? nah doesnt do anything for me and husband told me that it doesnt for him either. As far as an older man/much younger woman is concerned experienced that in real life, he got a saucepan over the head and learned a lesson of his own.
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I’ve never done any role play with the school uniform type of thing but can imagine with the right person it could be a lot of fun
When I cam and I’m dressed in my lingerie I often play being a “sissy” and a couple of my guys want to play the daddy daughter role play thing which really turns me on
I’ve recently started using Fetlife and on there there’s groups of guys who dress in school girl uniforms and meet up with a dom school teacher type figure in a mocked up classroom where they perform various sex acts with each other and the dom that was a complete new thing to me but seeing the pictures I am massively turned on by it and it’s now included in my cd type list of fantasies I would like to try
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Sorry, anything that could infer under age just turns me off…it freaks me out.
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@Iwill I honestly don’t think it’s about the under age thing for me
It’s just the taboo aspect of adults dressing up in school outfits
Another thing I’ve seen recently for the first time ever on Fetlife is male n female couples who both dressed in school outfits and that kinda freaked me out but I don’t know why I feel differently about that