Spreading A Little Festive Cheer...

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I love talking about sex how it is. I love slightly disturbing all those social norms, all those stereotypes laid down in porn, all those people who would judge if you let them. Dare I say I have fun with that sort of thing, as well as making a point.

Loving this! +1

Thanks for your sweetheart words KM, you deserved the ones I said to you so much. You've been amazing to me.

I am on a better level today, I saw my outreach worker yesterday (she visits me in my house), she is ace too, and has been through some of the worst cr*p you can imagine too!

We had an extra long session to re-connect. I laid everything out to her, however embarrassing it was for me and she was so unbelievably still proud of me for recognising my issues and me trying to nip them in the bud.

In the most professional way she can, she always says how pretty she thinks I am and what a lovely lady I am...this so touches my heart. She is a sweetheart and much older than me, but she is wise and I so understand where she comes from with her experiences.

Next appointment is the 4th Jan 2019, she is going to help me learn to get around where I live (independently, on my own) as I can get lost just trying to get out of a shop (I am not even slightly joking about that, it's to do with trauma and my brain not working properly).

It's scary for both hubby and I, but I can't just stay in the house forever, till I die.

I'm only 33, so all these issues going on and my past, has truly messed me up!! They are tough to fix, but I've no choice, but to try. 🤪 🤯 😵

At least I can work on everything over Christmas in preparation for my next appt.

Much love. xxx 💚

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VioletWolf wrote:

And that is precisely why I told him I didn’t want a Xmas baby - birthmas! The squishing together of birthday and Xmas 😩 as it is, I’ll get what I’m given and I’ll work out how to give baby a birthday and a Xmas as it gets older. This was supposed to be the year I was super organised 😂 I am stressed to death because there’s so much to do and so little time to do it in, and everything is dependent on when baby arrives. The kids’ presents are mostly wrapped at least, just their stocking fillers to go, so that’s my little victory I’m clinging to 😂 And I also work in retail and have done for a long time. It’s insane how the season of giving becomes the season of giving attitude and grief. People just turn into arseholes! Customers hold us personally responsible when they turn up for click & collect orders that haven’t arrived yet - have you had the text or email to say it’s here? No, but I’ve made a special trip here! Well that was silly wasn’t it, wait until you’ve had notification that it’s arrived?! 🤦🏼‍♀️ And when something that was in stock 2 months ago is no longer there - well why not? This is disgraceful, you need to find me one and get it shipped here! Erm...no, if you wanted it you should have bought it when you saw it, instead of expecting it to still be in stock a week before Xmas 🙃 and vouchers! Why doesn’t the voucher work with that offer? Because it doesn’t, and it clearly states so on the voucher. Well that should be more obvious! It’s printed RIGHT THERE and of course there’s terms & conditions or the whole thing would be a shambles. I’ve seen so many members of staff break down in tears because of horrible customers, and we can’t even defend ourselves. It’s bad for retail staff, I imagine it’s worse for wait staff, and downright abysmal for NHS and emergency services staff. Bah humbug 😂

Bigiain wrote:

I hate Christmas. I worked in retail for over 10 years and seen it turn the nicest people into stress heads or just angry people. I started to like it when I had my son, but stuff for him and doing loads for him to see want a etc, but with his mum and my break up and not seeing him the past 3 years, well I've became bitter about Christmas.. So I usually just go to my g/f and sit with her and her mum doing sfa until the day is over

So sorry Bigiain. x Thinking of you.

So sorry VW, I understand about the voucher thing as I had made the same issue arise with CC on here. I needed to understand, once the voucher had expired, tough!! - whether I was in hospital (or whatever reason) or not.

I wasn't an ar*ehole about it though, just a bit saddened when I received an email from CC. I am truly sorry for bothering them (just because I've not been well). It won't ever happen again.

I've learned my lesson.

BTW, I've been waiting for an item I ordered, completely unrelated to LH, just something for us. I've waited 4 months now and been told it's got lost in the post.

I didn't get angry, just assertive. Hopefully, I'll have a resolution soon and a luckier year in 2019!! x

Life is hard sometimes, sorry it gets so stressful for you too! xxx 😖 💚

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K&c30's wrote:

For the first time ever I am actually super organised. I have all my presents wrapped and under the tree (apart from the kids presents). I have exactly 6 more presents to buy which I shall be taking care of at the weekend. Plans... we have pantomime tickets for the weekend before Christmas. I have Christmas day and boxing day off, apart from that I shall be working. I am not the most festive person in the world, I don't listen to Christmas music and I get bored of the commercial hype that is consistently shoved in our faces. That being said I think my biggest grumble is the fact that a single day can create such stress. Christmas day evening is my favourite part or the day where you can kick back having spent the day swearing at the cooker and spending 3 hours putting together the kids toys using cryptic instructions that are completely illogical and think "thank fuck that's over, and another year in till I have to do it all over again"..... Merry christmas everyone 😀

Delightful87 wrote:

Not looking forward to Christmas much this year, hubby is working Christmas Eve night, Christmas Day night and Boxing Day night then New Year’s Eve night and New Year’s Day night then I’m back to work on the 3rd. Oh well. Can’t win them all! So it’ll be as little as possible, lots of buffet food so the children can help themselves and I don’t have to cook if I don’t want to. Only good thing being my period came early this month so when hubby is around it’ll be sex whenever we can fit it in! Lol! We had bought some toys in the Black Friday event which we have saved for when he is around, looking forward to that! We’ll, well I, do the usual family stuff and visit the mother in law 🙄 but actually looking forward to not doing too much. Feeling very festive as today is my last day at work til new year- wahoo!

Nice to hear your views Delightful87, enjoy your time off work!! xx

Same here with the period thing!!! x

Like K&c30's comments very much, lol! 💚

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Fun&Funky wrote:

Lol K&C 😂 I’m super unorganised and unfestive this year. We’ve had a very difficult year with illness, a death and marriage problems. I want to just take stock this Christmas and be thankful for what we have. We’re soebdibg Christmas at home this year and I’m kinda looking forward to not having to rush about. The kids being able to play and maybe going on a Christmas Day walk.

It's very understandable how you feel, F&F, so sorry for you. xx 💚

And now, after my sixpence worth, "As you all were..."

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Emerald269 wrote:

I love talking about sex how it is. I love slightly disturbing all those social norms, all those stereotypes laid down in porn, all those people who would judge if you let them. Dare I say I have fun with that sort of thing, as well as making a point.

Loving this! +1

Thanks for your sweetheart words KM, you deserved the ones I said to you so much. You've been amazing to me.

I am on a better level today, I saw my outreach worker yesterday (she visits me in my house), she is ace too, and has been through some of the worst cr*p you can imagine too!

We had an extra long session to re-connect. I laid everything out to her, however embarrassing it was for me and she was so unbelievably still proud of me for recognising my issues and me trying to nip them in the bud.

In the most professional way she can, she always says how pretty she thinks I am and what a lovely lady I am...this so touches my heart. She is a sweetheart and much older than me, but she is wise and I so understand where she comes from with her experiences.

Next appointment is the 4th Jan 2019, she is going to help me learn to get around where I live (independently, on my own) as I can get lost just trying to get out of a shop (I am not even slightly joking about that, it's to do with trauma and my brain not working properly).

It's scary for both hubby and I, but I can't just stay in the house forever, till I die.

I'm only 33, so all these issues going on and my past, has truly messed me up!! They are tough to fix, but I've no choice, but to try. 🤪 🤯 😵

At least I can work on everything over Christmas in preparation for my next appt.

Much love. xxx 💚

Hi Emerald,

I know you've been suspended, but I hope you see this anyway.

Please don't let this set you back. You've been doing well the past couple of days, and this is only a little blip. Apply the same clinical dissection to this as you have to all the stuff you told your outreach worker, and see what LH say about getting your account back.

Take care hun and think about what I've told you in the past xx

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Hi Emerald, please get well soon, thinking of you xx

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VioletWolf, I wish you all the very best 🙂

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Bigiain, sorry to hear about your suffering mate, I hate Christmas due to the aggressive, foul mouth rants when my girlfriend’s family come round, I spend most of the time in the lounge on my own counting down the hours until it’s over with.

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I don't celebrate Christmas but my family do (well, the more vocal members do) so my holiday period is visiting all of them who are annoyingly spread out over the country. It'll be a lot of travelling. Myself and my sister have birthdays during the Christmas taint. I have my Name Day on St Nicholas Day so that's when I have a little bit of a celebration (gifts and drinks). It's a good time to chill out before the Christmas rush.

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Hi everyone, not long to go now. We will be having a fairly chilled one this year just the two of us and our dog. We will no doubt do the obligatory family visits but apart from that we'll be chilling at home or out walking. I have ordered us some goodies so fingers crossed they arrive in the next few days 😁 To all those who are having struggles we wish you all the best and we how everyone ha an amazing Christmas and New year whatever you decide to do 🎅🎄🤶🎉

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Chilled sounds nice Bex. Thanks, I hope you both have a great Christmas and New Year too 🙂🎅🎄🤶🎉