I just wondered if anyone had any suggestions about how to show my OH how to touch me / exploring this together? I know what I do to pleasure myself but I can’t explain this to my hubby and, to be honest, I’m not sure this would work if he’s doing it for me.
We’ve been together for 16 years and never worked this one out!
I am very sensitive and I’m worried that he’ll slip and touch my clit directly which would really hurt. I’m also very self conscious of my vulva and that general area so I tend to lose all arousal when he’s gone down there to touch me. Everytime we’ve tried this during foreplay I’ve lost all interest in sex, totally dried up (sorry if too much info) and I become upset.
I guess I could just stick with doing it myself and let him touch my boobs instead but I really enjoy being tied up and would like to be able to have sex whilst my hand are tied. At the moment he has to release my hands so that I can touch my clit otherwise I can’t orgasm and I rely a lot on clit stimulation for arousal too so if I don’t get any clit stimulation first, penetration can be difficult.
Because of my feelings of worry and embarrassment, he is wary of touching me and doesn’t really want to try, partly from fear of hurting me and partly (I think) due to worrying that he won’t be good at it.
Any suggestions on how we might be able to explore this without him feeling too much pressure to get it right and me not getting upset due to self consciousness and worry?