MrandMrs_L wrote:
KM, I love that you say you don't have this crazy constant sex life, after reading your blog I really did wonder what I was missing out on.
We do have a lot of sex by anyone's standards, but we also have a constant stream of crap that needs doing. It never ends.
We sometimes feel sex is the only time we leave the ever growing list of stuff behind, so we decided to have as much sex as we like, and to hell with the list whilst we do.
Gosig, how could I ever forget Lucille! 😳🤣 have you tried maybe watching threesome porn together? Or it porn a big no no as well? My sex drive is probably 95% most of the time, Mr L is probably about 45% all of the time... and like this morning I’ve woken up horny as ever and he’s so not down. I feel your frustrations girl! KM, that’s so true and totally get that. It really is the one time you can get away from all the day to day crap. I told Mr L about sleepy anal... I’m still hoping and praying for that 😬
MrandMrs_L wrote:
KM, that’s so true and totally get that. It really is the one time you can get away from all the day to day crap. I told Mr L about sleepy anal... I’m still hoping and praying for that 😬
Mmmm. Sleepy anal is dreamy. I hope he takes the hint too. I'm sure you'll love it.
Bigtrak wrote:
Gosig (cuddlyin Swedish?),
I am very sexually adventurous and open and have helped my wife open up to her own desires and fantasies. It took a long time. Some of them years to admit to each other. My wife felt very disturbed and ashamed of her bisexual desires and I had desires of my own that I kept from her. But eventually one by one we opened up, discussed and now use those fantasies in the bedroom. Maybe he's just ashamed? How you get him to open up I don't know. Worst case scenario is he's just plain vanilla. Not sure how I'd cope in honesty without both sides of our relationship being strong. In the bedroom and in the support, love and understanding we give each other. I'm sure if one half was wrong I'd die a little. I'd be honest and upfront and see what occurs. At least you'll know.
Thanks Bigtrak, I do enjoy reading about what you and the wife get up to (I mean, who doesn’t think that swallowing squirt isn’t like the hottest thing ever?) and that you are working things out together. I don’t think he is ‘ashamed’ of anything, it’s just that, in his own words he ‘doesn’t like sharing’ me. Watching porn is fine (admittedly watching together isn’t something we’ve done in a while) but he says he is quite possessive of me so I don’t think anyone else getting involved/ watching/ hell, reading a newspaper in the same room would ever be something that will change.
Sadly, the flip side to this attitude however is that I don’t feel massively desired either in the whole carnal ‘must have you now’ kind of way, I just feel like a good little wifey under lock and key. As you said, things not sitting entirely right in that part of our relationship (for me anyway) does lead to that fear that, as you put it, part of me is going to die a little with us perhaps never being on the same page in this respect. I’m not going to lie, it does worry me.
It is what it is for now I guess, I am doing what I can to change things that aren’t hard limits. I really do appreciate everyone’s thoughts, massive thank you again.