Things you don't like which you probably should...

Odd thread title but here goes....

I can't be the only one - seemingly benign and vanilla sexual practices that you don't really like.

See, I have a dislike of partaking in a 69. I'm not entirely sure why, but it is a total turn off for me. Come on, tell me that you all hate blow jobs or something!

I've no belief in things one 'should' be into with sex although I understand feeling like your not digging something that TV, magazines and friends all seem to champion, thus making you feel like you're missing something.

I'm not one for 69 unless the mood really takes me.

Horses for courses.

I don't really like coming all that much. Sometimes I desperately need it...but usually it's not all that good for me...'cause my muscles are too strong the contractions can be quite uncomfortable.

That the sort of thing you were looking for?

Adx

Tigerlilies wrote:

I've no belief in things one 'should' be into with sex although I understand feeling like your not digging something that TV, magazines and friends all seem to champion, thus making you feel like you're missing something.

I'm not one for 69 unless the mood really takes me.

Horses for courses.

Exactly where this thread came from http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/orgasm-army/sex-tips-and-advice/194836-womens-magazines-the-media-and-general/

Bugs me and I could rant all day haha!

Adx

Wow. Really hard for me to *not* irrationally defend 69ing!

It's like a blowjob *only* with pussy/cock in your mouth, what is not to love!

Sorry... Errr... I think I'm too 'normal'...

(gets thinking)

headsouth wrote:

AdnaW wrote:

I don't really like coming all that much. Sometimes I desperately need it...but usually it's not all that good for me...'cause my muscles are too strong the contractions can be quite uncomfortable.

That the sort of thing you were looking for?

Adx

You've said this a fair few times, and it seems to me that you've been able to turn this almost into a real positive for you, as you've had to broaden your horizons somewhat. Maybe not so much in the literal checklist of things to do, but in the way you do things and the thoughts behind them. Is that a fair observation, or am I talking out of my arse?

I don't know if it's just me or many blokes but things can become so orgasm focussed for me at times.

I do like Ad can go with whatever the flow is in sex and still enjoy it. Being naturally submissive too it means I have super amazing selfish sex at times but it makes me feel a little bad at times...

Well I like giving head, and I like receiving it, I just dislike 69's. which is why I said that I probably should like it, though I do appreciate the point of view that there is no should in sex (and agree with it). But was meaning things that are popular and well liked, that most people would think you were strange not for liking.

Your other thread is excellent, AdnaW.

WandA wrote:

Wow. Really hard for me to *not* irrationally defend 69ing!

It's like a blowjob *only* with pussy/cock in your mouth, what is not to love!

Sorry... Errr... I think I'm too 'normal'...

(gets thinking)

I like it when I'm on top but it can become a strain.

When a gentleman's on top, there's a nose-in-ass issue that I care very little for, to boot.

headsouth wrote:

AdnaW wrote:

I don't really like coming all that much. Sometimes I desperately need it...but usually it's not all that good for me...'cause my muscles are too strong the contractions can be quite uncomfortable.

That the sort of thing you were looking for?

Adx

You've said this a fair few times, and it seems to me that you've been able to turn this almost into a real positive for you, as you've had to broaden your horizons somewhat. Maybe not so much in the literal checklist of things to do, but in the way you do things and the thoughts behind them. Is that a fair observation, or am I talking out of my arse?

I certainly have made it a positive! No point whining on that I'm not normal, might as well make it work for me

It means I know what satisfies me - I don't have to rely on an orgasm as an indicator. I know what I need and know what I like. And I know how to express myself...I can say to my partner with confidence "today, I don't want an orgasm, I want you to do this, this and this" or "I'm not sure what I want yet, have a go and I'll tell you what's good". Maybe not quite so mechanically haha but you get the idea.

I realised a long time ago that there was no such thing as "normal" - basically I think everyone has *something* that makes sex "not normal" and everyone has to contend with something, we just realise we have to get on with it and make sex enjoyable for ourselves because life's too short to not have fun!

I also learnt a long time ago how to treat anything that feels intimate and satisfying as sex - because the strong muscles prevent penetration sometimes...that change in my mind set made the world of difference!

Adx

I wasn't knocking not liking 69. The point in this thread is to point out we are all wonderfully different pervs!

I always forget many people don't 69 on their side too, our main position. The other ways can be a bit painful or unpleasant.

Errr... still thinking... I'm soo bloody vanilla.

Tigerlilies wrote:

WandA wrote:

Wow. Really hard for me to *not* irrationally defend 69ing!

It's like a blowjob *only* with pussy/cock in your mouth, what is not to love!

Sorry... Errr... I think I'm too 'normal'...

(gets thinking)

I like it when I'm on top but it can become a strain.

When a gentleman's on top, there's a nose-in-ass issue that I care very little for, to boot.

yes! boo to nose in the arse!

telemachus wrote:

Odd thread title but here goes....

I can't be the only one - seemingly benign and vanilla sexual practices that you don't really like.

See, I have a dislike of partaking in a 69. I'm not entirely sure why, but it is a total turn off for me. Come on, tell me that you all hate blow jobs or something!

i have to say i agree with you ive never liked it i find it hard to consentrate when somthings getting done to me too. xxx

headsouth wrote:

WandA wrote:

I wasn't knocking not liking 69. The point in this thread is to point out we are all wonderfully different pervs!

I always forget many people don't 69 on their side too, our main position. The other ways can be a bit painful or unpleasant.

Errr... still thinking... I'm soo bloody vanilla.

Sounds good to me... want to try that, my dear?

No thank you.

Ouch! Well, it was me being quoted...

It is a much more comfortable position and thighs make good pillows!

69 would be my least fav thing to partake in.

I feel awkward. So i tend to have take my mind off it by doing everything to him so that i ignore whats going on to me.

That probs sounds worse as means he wasting his time however - its just difficult to not feel awkward - god im confusing myself now lol

I do agree with 69 to an extent, but recently I've been enjoying it an awful lot more. I think my enjoyment for it, is growing with my growing confidence. x

I prefer to enjoy giving or enjoy receiving oral sex - I find that both at the same means I get distracted from the enjoyment of both of them by the other thing that's going on.

For me it's better to keep giving & reveiving separate.

i don't particulary like oral sex for me, my boyfriend likes it and i will et him do it sometimes and sometimes it will be amazing and i'm gripping the sheets in no time but most of the time i just don't enjoy it, and its not his tactics as he has made me come many times its just that i dont like the whole wetness thing =/ its always on my mind that theres spit etc... it doesn't help that like we both live at home so you cant dive off for a shower just after to tidy up!

VW x

Ooh & back to the main thread topic:

The position that all pornos seem to have where he's sat down & you're facing away from him? I don't like that at all - it means his bits miss all the fun bits inside me & it also hurts my taint - my least favourite position of all (tried it a couple of times in case we got it wrong the first times).

The only benefit I can see to it is for the purposes of photography you can film the front of her.

headsouth wrote:

CurlyCoupleWife wrote:

I prefer to enjoy giving or enjoy receiving oral sex - I find that both at the same means I get distracted from the enjoyment of both of them by the other thing that's going on.

For me it's better to keep giving & reveiving separate.

I'll certainly agree with that, it does get confusing, one thing at a time is generally a better way forward. I'd still never say no though!

me neither - any oral with hubby is good oral but 69 wouldn't be my preferred way.