Yes yes I know this has been posted a million times, but I'd like a bit more info into our situation specifically if anyone's had a similar experience.
We've been together for 6 years and after a fairly "dry" year or so, our sex life is back with full force. As such we've been discussing our likes and fantasties a bit more lately and one that keeps coming up is the idea of a threesome.
We've previously ruled it out due to both of us hating the thought of one of us being with another person, but we both are curious and like I said lately it keeps cropping up.
I watched a lot of porn in my teenage years and one of my biggest turn ons is seeing my fiance in the same light. As such we like to stretch her out a bit - we've got large dildos that we both love to use on her and although anal play isn't something we're really into, we've recently started using them for double vaginal penetration whilst we're having sex, which drives both of us crazy. Fisting has long been a goal but with her being quite petite and my hands being quite large, isn't something we've quite managed yet!
I therefore have been fantasising lately about her being with two guys, spit roasted and double penetrated. This throws up a couple of obstacles.
1) I don't particularly want to have sex with my fiance with another man - it's something I'd potentially be open to, but once I start thinking of the logistics I just think it'd be weird and awkward. Plus I'm not sure I'd like watching her being fucked by another guy, regardless of how much attention she was also paying to me.
2) I hate the idea of cuckolding, I just don't get it. I can't think of anything worse than being present whilst she was getting fucked by two other guys
3) One potential solution I've thought might work is if she had a three (or more) some with other guys whilst I wasn't there, and it was filmed so I could watch it later. Again though this has it's potential issues. Once it's done is done, and although I like the idea of it, I'm worried that watching it back I'd just be like "oh look, the love of my life is pleasuring two other dudes. That's not cool". And on a similar note, whilst it was happening what would it be like if I was sat at home knowing that at that moment two guys were balls deep in my fiance? Also and this might seem petty - how would it be filmed? I'd want pretty good production value to feel like it was worth it!
After speaking to her about it, it seems the feelings are mutual the other way around - she's open to bi-play so a FFM threesome would seem to be a good idea as everyone could get involved (in a MMF threesome I'm not open to any bi-stuff, other than obviously rubbing members whilst inside her) but at the start of our relationship she was very insecure and she's worried that with FFM threesome those feelings would come back, either during or afterwards.
Also to be honest although it was a teenae fantasy of mine I'm not sure I'd even enjoy a FFM threesome that much. Again, the logistics seem a bit awkward, and I'm a bit self conscious with new lovers so not sure I'd actually enjoy it that much. Having said that I've always liked the idea of a girl riding me whilst another one sits on my face, so at least that's a positive!
What are people's experiences with similar situations? I've thought going to a swingers club might be a good idea to further explore this stuff but neither of us want to "swing" in the traditional sense - ie swapping partners.
The best way I can sum it up, which I've said to her and she agrees, is that if there was a video of her in a threesome or gangbang from before we were together, I would happily watch it and find it a MASSIVE turn on.