I am sorry if I sound too harsh, but this subject has gotten me oversensitive
Time can vary depending on how turned on i am, she is, or if i masturbated earlier.
Most women to be fair do not want someone pounding at their bits for two hours like a steam train and actually prefer a short session.
Personally i try and hold off long enough for my OH to climax then i ride on home.
I've slept with guys that have lasted from a minute up to not being able to orgasm from any type of sex at all. Good sex is about so much more than how long you last. My preference depends on what we are doing. A minute of penetration with no other stimulation will leave me feeling pretty pissed off. Half an hour of just vaginal sex will bore me but mix up oral, anal and vaginal and I'm happy for it to go on for a long time.
It depends what's on the television. If its a soap then I can last a lot longer lol
My husband only lasts a few minutes. He knows he doesn't last so he makes sure we have plenty of foreplay and spends a lot of time making sure I am happy. He never leaves me unsatisfied anymore. He used to but not now.
The first time i had sex was my longest, about 90 minutes. As for being too quick thats only ever happened badly once and i was so embarrassed but we'd been together a long time so it wasn't too bad.
Normally i'd say 10-20 minutes but different things affect it, i learned ways to make myself last longer both physically and mentally. I don't think lasting longer is always a good thing, at times i've made my partner climax a couple of times and i'm still going strong but its uncomfortable for her by then.
Personally i try not be bothered by time as the circumstances are rarely always the same and i've never gone too far wrong.
Seasidecouple wrote:
5 times a week now?!NatandTom wrote:
My partner lasts around 20-30 minutes. I'm happy with that, although it was very tiring in the beginning of our relationship when having sex 5 times a day!
Nope. We don't see each other every week, because we're long-distance. I'd be happy with 3/4 times a week if we did though, as our sessions are longer.
I don't know why it posted twice -.-
A couple of minutes, i prefer that as i dont generally (hardly at all) orgasm during sex, but i enjoy having it so a couple of minutes is enough. And he will use toys on me when we get time for a proper session and ensure im satisfied. We have young children and a baby so im happy with anytime we can get!
He would prefer to last longer but i have told him that im more than happy with how long it lasts.
If we've been out and hes had a few drinks he can go for anything upto an hour, and thats tiring and can be quite sore after a while.
The problem with a topic like this is that everyones perception of time is going to be different. For example what may seem like 5 minutes may in fact be only 2 minutes. To prove a point next time your stuck in a queue just make a mental note of the starting time and then guess how lon you have been queuing for and then check the actual time taken. You'll be surprised at how much we over estimate .
Unless you have some sort of stop watch in the bedroom( and that isn't goint to happen is it ? ) then the timings that everyone is quoting arn't going to be accurate because of our own perceptions of time.
It depends if It's a quickie it's about 5-10 minutes
Average time is about 20 minutes
If he's had a drink though it can be hours until one of decides we've had enough (Saturday night was 4+ hours but a long bondage and spanking session before, then toys, oral in between actual sex). I'm still tired from it now 😐
I have noticed the older he's getting the longer it takes ( he's 53)
He always had to think about nasty stuff to stop him from orgasming too soon so now he has a lot of control through practice.
If it only lasted a couple minutes I'd be dissatisfied. If I'm getting penetrated I need to climax unless it's been a while for him I know it will be fast or its stated this is just a quicky and i know it's gonna be a fast one and I aint getting any. In this case, I'll finish on my own if I want. Most time I'm happy just to be able to give him sex over him having to masturbate cause he is horny.
You both know how turned on you are, and you can normally gauge the way the session is going.
I hate finishing before my OH because i love to leave her feeling fulfilled not frustrated, but lets not forget folks, you are discussing the human body and a whole range of things can effect our staying power.
Have you been sending texts or talking dirty and dropping him hints for most of the day?
Have you been flirting with him or purposely walking backwards and forwards past him with skimpy clothes on.?
On the opposite side, has he things on his mind that are distracting him (this is the easiest way to stay the longest. Think of other things).
Has he done something which you didnt enjoy and you have told him perhaps a little too harshly and its knocked his confidence which in turn has slowed him down a little.
As i have said before, for quick finishers, try masturbating about an hour before you know your lovemaking session will begin, or ladies, BJ him fully to the end and spend a while just kissing, feeling and touching until he's ready to go again.
There was this silliness recently ...
http://www.eatliveglow.com/this-is-apparently-how-long-sex-should-last/?utm_source=Outbrain&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=paid&utm_term=171366
Completely sexist from the point of view that sex seemed to finish when the man came.
Why wouldn't you set the stopwatch for entry (if that is when the start of sex is defined) to when someone came?
Sorry if I've caused a slight bad feeling with this post. I was only trying to get an opinion on what the ladies think is a good time and how long the fellas go for.
Yeah, I'm starting to get to that age where I have loads of stamina and staying power. Sometimes I can come quicker dependant on the situation, but have had a partner say she wondered if I still found her attractive as I wasnt cumming as quickly as I used to. Which is a little... well. Ideally I'd like us both to cum together, ho hum.
But if we're having a session of it, The first time I will cum after about 5-10 mins, and then I'm hard for ages. Dont know if its because she's so wet by then or just desensatisation on my part, a combination, or something else.
Vanilla_Kink wrote:
Seasidecouple wrote:
I've found if I go over 10 mins my partner starts getting fed up? She is more of a foreplay gal granted.
I would feel the same way. If I was with someone that did last a long time I would definitely need to mix up the positions
Why not carry on the forplay during penetration.
Also nothing makes me wanna cum more than if I think she is nearing orgasm. That tends to get things (and me) pumping harder.
Zephron wrote:
Vanilla_Kink wrote:
Seasidecouple wrote:
I've found if I go over 10 mins my partner starts getting fed up? She is more of a foreplay gal granted.
I would feel the same way. If I was with someone that did last a long time I would definitely need to mix up the positions
Why not carry on the forplay during penetration.
Also nothing makes me wanna cum more than if I think she is nearing orgasm. That tends to get things (and me) pumping harder.
So true. If I think she's coming more often then not, I will cum. Annoys the hell out of me. I think me more than her.
I must say, this thread is making me more positive about my staying power, which I felt was always too short. It's good to hear that I'm not alone and porn really has corrupted my impression of penetration time.
Most of out sex sessions are about 40 mins to an hour. I couldn't say how long actual penetrative sex is because I'll often go down on her a second time during sex. But I think we definitely spend more time having sex than foreplay (specially as it doesn't take her very long to have an orgasm with oral, but do like to tease and build up to it a fair bit).
I don't think the amount of time is important, for me it's more how many times she orgasms and how powerful they are. When we first started going out she could only orgasm from sex by going on top. She could get he self going pretty easily while on top so had about 3-5 vaginal ones during sex.
She never orgasmed from other positions because she would hold back - turns out she's quite a squirter.
Now however it isn't uncommon for her to have 2-3 clitoral orgasms and around 40 vaginal ones during sex.
Honestly speaking the amount of time it takes me to cum is dependant on so many different little things.
It could be smutty talk, it could be the way you're moving your body, the look in your eyes (to name a few). Things that make it take longer could be stress/changing position every few minutes. I think sometimes the sex is just too intense and I find myself having to stop in my tracks quite often if I'm really into it.
It is super embarassing to cum early, but thankfully I keep it in check almost all of the time. Sometimes you can't help it. I do go for round two if I've clearly buggered up. If I don't stop exactly when I know I need to.