Me and the other half have a good sex life but I would like to last longer... At the moment I'm lasting anything from 5 to 10mins from penetration which is average enough( I think) any ideas or tips to last longer as it something I'd like to do to improve our all ready good sex life..
Distractions.
My personal favourite is the 9 times table
More sex. Now my sex life has taken an upswing I find I last longer. Before, if it had been awhile since I'd had full sex, the feel and excitement would just get the better of me. In that crucial moment I didn't care and wouldn't even try and hold back. I think I got a little giddy.
Other than that there's always different positions that would give her more feeling while also not stroking you so much. Something like woman on top where she can grind into your hips rather than bounce. Interspersing a few of those in should help prolong the fun.
The same goes for having little bits of mini-sex inbetween doing other non-penetrative stuff. That can be a lot of fun.
And then there's things like delay lube/spray and condoms. I think condoms really help me last longer when I use them - sometimes a little too long though, but that may be because I'm circumcised.
Actually, on the same line as the cock ring idea, we bought the GLUVR finger vibrator awhile back as it looked unusual. Long story short, we've not managed to figure out how either of us can orgasm with it, however we did notice that it gets me really hard and also desensitises me at the same time. So it can be a great 'fluffer'. It's £40 full price, but it's often cheaper in the sales, though I'm sure other toys could do the same trick. Come to think of it I get a similar effect when my wife is using her mini-wand while I'm inside her with her ankles over my shoulders. Not had much luck with cock rings so far, but I might not be doing it right.Justthe2ofus2007 wrote:
Hi ya,
Hubby use to be able to last just a few minutes, so if we wanted him to last longer, I would give him a blow job/hand job earlier on, so he wasn’t as excited for the main event. Cock rings are good too.
Yeah, that's pretty much my experience of them so far. We tried a penis extender out the other day and I couldn't get myself to stay hard enough to get it on properly. Chucking my balls through the hoop was a real distraction. I think the part of my brain that I use to concentrate on fiddly tasks is the exact opposite of the part that controls erections.
Hagions - cock sleeves/extenders are also supposed to desensitise you, though you wouldn't get the same sensation for yourself. They might be useful if you're looking to give your partner a longer session and are willing to sacrifice your own enjoyment a little.
Hi when you feel like your gonna cum pull out kiss her on the lips neck and work your way down her body this works for me and her as i love to pleasure my partner so keeps us both arroussed and makes me last longer
I can vouch for the more sex approach. That worked wonders for my husband.
Cumming a couple of hours beforehand is a technique a friend of mine uses, and that works for them.
Hi there have you looked at the delay Spary? I tried one awhile ago not thinking it would work but wanted to give myself a chance at lasting longer. Not had sex in long time as wife pregnant as long time after. Can’t rem name it was a black bottle £14.99 exs I think. Few sprays on head maybe balls to wait around 15 mins. Worked for me don’t over do it other wise it be too numb
We use Durex Performer. They come with a delay gel in the tip and I can honestly say they work a treat. I actually have to take it off in the end or I would just not finish.
+points - Lots of action and you can have a great time with lots of positions etc.
-points - the normal ones for durex. Once you put it on certain play is over but we get round that with lots of play first and then mainly concentrating on intercourse.
It works for us and we can have a great time.
Also if your not bothered about a lengthy session then just don't bother putting one on. Lots of things to do to have a good time.
When I was dating, I always have a problem witjh cumming too soon with a new partner, so I started using Durex Performa condoms if I was seeing sineome new and they certainly helped. Stil use them sometinez now, but take the condom off and enter again to ejaculate cis we don’t need them for safety or stopping pregnancy.
Have you tried eating blueberries?
I was told they have an effect similar to viagra due to something in them 😂
Extenders/sleeves best for me and also have the EXS spray but not really got to use it in anger yet! Lots of sex is even better though! Also perform better first thing in the morning when a surprise is sprung on me without any build up.
I started doing this kegal exercise a teen, and have never had a problem in this department:
http://www.herballove.com/solutions/kegel-exercises-premature-ejaculation-step-step
Using a cock sleeve will make you last a lot longer and the added length and girth will give extra satisfaction to your partner.
The Odd Couple wrote:
I started doing this kegal exercise a teen, and have never had a problem in this department:
http://www.herballove.com/solutions/kegel-exercises-premature-ejaculation-step-step
Odd - do you use this when you're amount to cum? Just before the 'point of no return?'
Or do you just do it periodically during sex?
ChocolateBear wrote:
Odd - do you use this when you're amount to cum? Just before the 'point of no return?'
Or do you just do it periodically during sex?
You do it whenever you can.
Sitting a a desk. Watching TV. It's completely discrete, and nobody will know you are doing it. All it does is build up the muscles so you can control them when you are about to blow you load, and stop such problems.
I find 6 pints of Stella does the trick for me
My hubby can give it to me a little bit longer if I keep by bra / nightie on. I will often blow him for 2-3 mins tos start and then let him thrust for 30 seconds or whenever he says honey i need to stop.... at that moment to make sex last longer I sit on his face for 5-10 mins and then let him finish inside me after so we have a good 15 minutes of fun!
Thx for update much appreciatedJocardwell wrote:
My hubby can give it to me a little bit longer if I keep by bra / nightie on. I will often blow him for 2-3 mins tos start and then let him thrust for 30 seconds or whenever he says honey i need to stop.... at that moment to make sex last longer I sit on his face for 5-10 mins and then let him finish inside me after so we have a good 15 minutes of fun!
The Odd Couple wrote:ChocolateBear wrote: Odd - do you use this when
you're amount to cum? Just before the 'point of no return?' Or do
you just do it periodically during sex? You do it whenever you can.
Sitting a a desk. Watching TV. It's completely discrete, and nobody will
know you are doing it. All it does is build up the muscles so you can
control them when you are about to blow you load, and stop such
problems. Right! So it literally gives you the control to hold back,
thanks. Does this mean you can ride that delicious pre-orgasm state
(similar to tantric sex?) or do you just slow yourself down, catch your
breath and go again?