Hello everyone
Recently I have been watching a lot of porn online. Am beginning to think I have an addiction.
Is there anybody else in this position and how do you deal with it?
Thanks in advance.
I remember I had this problem... man, I wasn't just watching, I was even making notes! I guess that's something you can call an addiction as well. And you know what I've done? Nothing. I was in a depression, and that's how I was dealing with it. But the wish to watch porn went away itself when I found myself some new purposes in lifes... Maybe you should just distract from it and find yourself something to get occupated?
Your profile says you are single.
I don't understand why you think watching porn would be a problem.
The only time I think you should be concerned is if it is affecting a potential relationship or if you are losing sleep or you are masturbating constantly or something.
You are using it for masturbation aid right? Is it any different from using a vibrator when you masturbate? It doesn't mean you are addicted to the vibrator because you use it each time, right?
I mean it's not like you make a bowl of popcorn and watch it for entertainment?
amber
I kind of am in the same situation right now.
I am in a relationship, so my solution was to tell it to my bf in hope he'd be there to help me when I want to watch it.
I decided I would stop completely. It's hard, I failed sometimes. I try to watch softer types of porn if I can't resist watching it, like thumblr gifs that are women friendly, or read eritica.
When I do watch it, I always feel emptiness afterwards, so I try to focus on that feeling as much as possible, and remember how things are better with my bf.
I am still trying to get rid of that addiction, but that are some tricks I developped to help me. Hope some can be helpful to you
MissPinky13 wrote:
Hello everyone
Recently I have been watching a lot of porn online. Am beginning to think I have an addiction.
Is there anybody else in this position and how do you deal with it?
Thanks in advance.
Hi MissPinky - What is is about your porn watching habit that makes you feel like you are addicted? Have a look at this list and see if any apply to you. 3 or more is the medical definition of addiction.
1. Tolerance. Do you use more over time?
2. Withdrawal. Have you experienced physical or emotional withdrawal when you have stopped using? Have you experienced anxiety or iiritability?
3. Limited control. Do you sometimes use more than you would like? Do you ever regret how much you used the day before?
4. Negative consequences. Have you continued to use even though there have been negative consequences to your mood, self-esteem, health, job, or family?
5. Neglected or postponed activities. Have you ever put off or reduced social, recreational, work, or household activities because of your use?
6. Significant time or energy spent. Have you spent a significant amount of time obtaining, using, concealing, planning, or recovering from your use? Have you spend a lot of time thinking about using?
7. Desire to cut down. Have you sometimes thought about cutting down or controlling your use? Have you ever made unsuccessful attempts to cut down or control your use?
I have definitely gone through phases where I've been watching more porn than I was entirely comfortable with. At those times I've given myself limits on how much/often I watched within a certain period and tried to do other things I enjoy to take my mind off it. That usually works for me.
I guess I am not seeing what others are seeing as a problem.
By the logic of desensitizing, women should not use vibrators.
If she gets used to that, how can she possibly enjoy regular vaginal intercourse again.
Since a cock obviously cannot move like a vibrator and of course it certainly does not vibrate.
In fact by the logic of desensitizing, using a vibrator is far worse. What if you can't orgasm without it anymore.
After all the porn is only visual.
Both are just masturbatory aids.
If you want to talk about masturbating being an addiction, that is a bit different I think.
amber
amber_angel - I believe some people do become dependent on or desensitised to vibrators (or other toys). Like with most things (porn included) it is only a problem if it is having a negative effect on you or some aspect of your life.
If anyone is interested in the effect of internet porn on the brain, there's a very interesting TED talk by Gary Wilson. A youtube or google search will find it.
Thanks all. Great debate here. Caliente thanks, I have thought about. I dont use a vibrater and I don't use it to masturbate either. Yes am single but i think when I look at it's due to boredom. This weekend I did not even look at it. So I think am not addicted lol. Thanks all for your input.
MissPinky13 - That's great to hear. Relax and enjoy. :)