Hey guys and gals,
Been a while since I've been on the forums. Busy busy busy. Anywho, I'm kind of having a WTF time of late... here goes (might end up being a long post):
Background: My ex-fiancée and I split in 2006 after she had an affair - with my then friend. (Well, I call it that but she actually only slept with him once before I found out and kicked her ass to the kerb.) The split was... acrimonious to say the least. Since then our paths have crossed a couple of times (it's a small town), and each time it's been frosty. One exception was several years ago when I went round to hers to clear the air and hopefully end the acrimony between us. After a very hostile reception "What the f*** are you doing here?!" it seemed to work. She gave me 5 minutes to say my piece and bugger off, we ended up talking for over an hour. I actually made her giggle with a bit of a mildly rude comment as I was leaving. Since then our paths haven't crossed at all.
Her family have, on several occasions over the years, made it clear to me and my current (and forever just FYI!) girlfriend that they don't like my ex's boyfriend. They are all still very friendly with me when our paths cross. In fact, I've sometimes been given stick from my ex's mum for not yet being engaged to current girlfriend!
Recently: About a month or so back, I bumped into someone who was coming out of a house on my walk into town (our regular route into town). She told me that my ex and her boyfriend had bought the house and would be moving soon. We live literally round the corner from said house. I'm not entirely sure who this woman is, but she obviously knows me. Neither I or my girlfriend had seen any sign of the ex when we've walked into town - which seems odd since she was supposedly buying the house.
Since then, the ex has on one occasion seemingly indicated her continuing hostility towards me - she liked on obvious troll post on Twitter about my tattoo. It's one which is deeply personal to me. Said troll claimed that I was obviously a townie because of it. She 'liked' the troll comment.
However, following that she commented on one of my Twitter posts, providing information which I already had (she wasn't to know), but which she obviously felt would be useful to me. She has also 'liked' and, on one occasion re-tweeted, several of my posts. By the way, this also means that a little heart appears on my notifications, next to her name. I find this rather irritating!
My girlfriend bumped into my ex's mum the other day. For some reason, she seems to like my girlfriend more than her own daughter - they're always nattering when they see each other! (Which I also find very odd indeed... It's not like they knew each other before we met!)
Ex's mum confirmed that my ex is moving in with him, but they are living in a house on a large ex-council estate. (Why the unknown woman would have lied to me is anyone's guess.) For some reason, she gave my girlfriend my ex's new address....! Current girlfriend and ex have never met. My ex once told me that the middle school she went to was "F***ing horrific. All the kids there are from [name of council estate] which means they're all scum." (Charming right?!) Now she is living on the estate she claimed to hate so much. It's not the nicest of areas granted, and it's not gone uphill recently either.
I have a blog. I also use Google Analytics. Thanks to a bit of tweaking and knowing my way around analytics, I know that she visits my blog from the links on my Twitter account whenever I post something new.
So, here are my musings:
What is her (my ex's) deal? Clearly there is something I'm missing here.
Is it weird that my ex's mum seems to really like my current girlfriend? (I think it is.)
Why on earth would my ex's mum give my girlfriend her daughters new address? What was she thinking? That we'd send a card?!
Why, after a few years of silence, the sudden contact?
And lastly (and this is my favourite!) Am I 'the one that got away'?
Apologies for the long post, but this is something I've never experienced from an ex before. I'm wondering if anyone has or might have any insights into her strange behaviour.
Oh, and I'm very happy in my current relationship just in case anyone was wondering. And I'd not resume any sort of relationship with my ex under any circumstances. My girlfriend and I have discussed this and the only thing we can come up with is 'Huh?'
Thanks for reading my long (as usual) post! x