I guess it's my confidence sort of thing. I always feel like I have a lot of responsibility and yet I've had sex with a woman who I've known for a couple of months. It's just that I crave a more slow-building romantic relationship and yet we've gone ahead and had sex without even going out on a date or whatever normal way it is for teenage adults (going by the fact we're 18 and 19, therefore technically still a 'teen') to start their relationship.
The first time, basically what happened was that I caressed her breasts (though I'm not a stereotypical male that goes for the breasts straight away), then she gave me a hand and blowjob. Then when I got back to my flat, I felt so vile about myself and cried a lot at that point because I don't know how I feel about her. I like her, but I wouldn't consider that I love her since I barely even know her.
And last night, I felt certain I wouldn't do it again, but I guess that doesn't happen in real life. She was the one that was urging me to go on and she guided my hand onto her vagina and I ended up fingering her. I'm not exactly sure how many times she reached orgasm as I expected her to squirt, which never happened. Right now I feel tired and I still feel terrible that I couldn't control myself. I think it's because I'm simply living in the moment. I was happy when I was with her and I just couldn't tear myself from her, but I did in the end because of the lectures today.
I'm just not sure what to do at this point because it's going to be happening again and again, and I don't want to feel bad about doing it. Maybe it's because I simply have automatic negative thoughts about things and take the whole slow-building relationships as gospel. I don't know.
Look at me trying to answer my own problems...