The other thread I opened on this subject has been closed now so once again I will defy the mods to state that I will be hanging around.
For the record, most of the comments about inappropriate behaviour on the other thread said that it is when the comments are directed at specific individuals. I have not done this. I dare anyone to find a post in the last few months since rejoining where I have directed a suggestive comment towards a specific person. It simply hasn't happened.
As for whether it was my behaviour over chat I can tell you that I have spoken to 5 people in total. One I said hello to and got no response, 1 was male and we spoke about mobile phones, porn sites and masturbators, another I was possibly a little flirtatious with but backed off immediately and the other 2 I still chat and email now and have had emails of support from today. Which one of those have been so out of line? There was even an accusation that my conversations with specific girls on threads are intimidating. I think that person must be getting confused as in the last few months I have had no such conversations. Check if you want.
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
Anyway, as it stands I don't feel as though I have done anything wrong. Most peoples opinion seems to be that its okay to be playful and suggestive with the group just don't direct it at specific individuals and thats what I have and will be doing. If I fall foul of some of the unspoken rules again feel free to report me or ban me whichever you see fit, for now though I will be sticking around.
Please don't think I am trying to be confrontational here though. I want no arguments with anyone I just think I have the right to respond.
If youd done nothing wrong the mods wouldn't have contacted you in the first place. They don't just contact you because a post was reported - they decide if the thing that was reported was fair in being reported and *then* decide whether to contact you but that's something you'll have to ask them to find out what exactly the mods felt was breaking the rules. People can report posts as and when they see fit.
You seem to want arguments to me but nevermind. See you around,
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
But they won't because... wait for it... they rely on people reporting it. A bit like how the police don't randomly knock at your once a week asking if everything is OK, they wait for people to call them. Forums are generally self moderating, they don't have someone reading every single post.
As I mentioned it is the LH mods who 'issue justice', if they think the report is silly they ignore it, I know becuase some things I've reported are ignored, if the mods feel it's acceptable it stays.
Ecksvie wrote:
Good for you. I doubt whether the mods would have asked you to leave so I don't see how you're "defying" them by staying, but hey ho.
did this NEED a whole new thread? couldn't you have posted in the good morning/afternoon thread?
i'm much more annoyed at people gumming up the forums with this kind of stuff (and WHOLE new threads started for just a one-line post?! what the heck?!) than you telling me you're horny over chat... and yes, for the record, he did back off the second i told him that i wasn't interested.. not-so-naughty, naughtyboy!!
did this NEED a whole new thread? couldn't you have posted in the good morning/afternoon thread?
i'm much more annoyed at people gumming up the forums with this kind of stuff (and WHOLE new threads started for just a one-line post?! what the heck?!) than you telling me you're horny over chat... and yes, for the record, he did back off the second i told him that i wasn't interested.. not-so-naughty, naughtyboy!! External Media
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Agreed, a new thread totally wasn't needed. Not picking on you naughtyboy, just saying........
so on that note, lets let this thread drop down (ironic coz I've posted and brought it to the top) and get on with the sex related talk (in a considerate manner I hasten to add) External Media!
did this NEED a whole new thread? couldn't you have posted in the good morning/afternoon thread?
i'm much more annoyed at people gumming up the forums with this kind of stuff (and WHOLE new threads started for just a one-line post?! what the heck?!) than you telling me you're horny over chat... and yes, for the record, he did back off the second i told him that i wasn't interested.. not-so-naughty, naughtyboy!! External Media
You weren't the only one!
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Jade got the spanish inquisition over her breasts. You really creeped her out NB and everyone here knows me and Jade are commited! And that her confidence is very low.
I tried to get my point across in your other thread, But you obviously didn't catch on!
I think you got away lightly considering I didn't approach you about it, When in fact I really really wanted to!External Media
And 'defying' the mods is not really cool is it?
The OA is a lovely place and I have met some down right amazing friends on here!
You sir, Are stirring up a storm and I strongly advise against doing so!
Sorry Everyone! I'm usually really chilled out but this is starting to get on my nerves!
I stand corrected it was 6 but once I realised she was not up for flirting I backed off straight away. I had not long rejoined at that point and your relationship and her low self confidence was completely unknown to me. I apologise for stepping on toes but I was under the impression she was reciprocating to start.
WandA wrote:
naughtyboy wrote:
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
But they won't because... wait for it... they rely on people reporting it. A bit like how the police don't randomly knock at your once a week asking if everything is OK, they wait for people to call them. Forums are generally self moderating, they don't have someone reading every single post.
So the police never have cops on the beat controlling things and keeping order do they? Granted they rely heavily on the public reporting stuff but they also don't like people reporting every slight infringement and wasting police time.
Ecksvie wrote:
Good for you. I doubt whether the mods would have asked you to leave so I don't see how you're "defying" them by staying, but hey ho.
The defiance I was referring to was the fact that they had closed the subject down and I had re-opened it.
I stand corrected it was 6 but once I realised she was not up for flirting I backed off straight away. I had not long rejoined at that point and your relationship and her low self confidence was completely unknown to me. I apologise for stepping on toes but I was under the impression she was reciprocating to start.
WandA wrote:
naughtyboy wrote:
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
But they won't because... wait for it... they rely on people reporting it. A bit like how the police don't randomly knock at your once a week asking if everything is OK, they wait for people to call them. Forums are generally self moderating, they don't have someone reading every single post.
So the police never have cops on the beat controlling things and keeping order do they? Granted they rely heavily on the public reporting stuff but they also don't like people reporting every slight infringement and wasting police time.
Ecksvie wrote:
Good for you. I doubt whether the mods would have asked you to leave so I don't see how you're "defying" them by staying, but hey ho.
The defiance I was referring to was the fact that they had closed the subject down and I had re-opened it.
I don't think so sunshine! She was clearly creeped out by your actions! Seriously, Don't wind me up, Because Although I love my friends and a lot of the staff on here, I LOVE JADE MORE!
I stand corrected it was 6 but once I realised she was not up for flirting I backed off straight away. I had not long rejoined at that point and your relationship and her low self confidence was completely unknown to me. I apologise for stepping on toes but I was under the impression she was reciprocating to start.
WandA wrote:
naughtyboy wrote:
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
But they won't because... wait for it... they rely on people reporting it. A bit like how the police don't randomly knock at your once a week asking if everything is OK, they wait for people to call them. Forums are generally self moderating, they don't have someone reading every single post.
So the police never have cops on the beat controlling things and keeping order do they? Granted they rely heavily on the public reporting stuff but they also don't like people reporting every slight infringement and wasting police time.
Ecksvie wrote:
Good for you. I doubt whether the mods would have asked you to leave so I don't see how you're "defying" them by staying, but hey ho.
The defiance I was referring to was the fact that they had closed the subject down and I had re-opened it.
i never flirted with u so i dont know why u said that, anyway why would i flirt with u, ur nothing special and im with paul and only have eyes for him
I stand corrected it was 6 but once I realised she was not up for flirting I backed off straight away. I had not long rejoined at that point and your relationship and her low self confidence was completely unknown to me. I apologise for stepping on toes but I was under the impression she was reciprocating to start.
WandA wrote:
naughtyboy wrote:
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
But they won't because... wait for it... they rely on people reporting it. A bit like how the police don't randomly knock at your once a week asking if everything is OK, they wait for people to call them. Forums are generally self moderating, they don't have someone reading every single post.
So the police never have cops on the beat controlling things and keeping order do they? Granted they rely heavily on the public reporting stuff but they also don't like people reporting every slight infringement and wasting police time.
Ecksvie wrote:
Good for you. I doubt whether the mods would have asked you to leave so I don't see how you're "defying" them by staying, but hey ho.
The defiance I was referring to was the fact that they had closed the subject down and I had re-opened it.
i never flirted with u so i dont know why u said that, anyway why would i flirt with u, ur nothing special and im with paul and only have eyes for him
did this NEED a whole new thread? couldn't you have posted in the good morning/afternoon thread?
Possibly it didn't need a new thread but I wanted to avoid the chance of my comments getting lost in an unrelated thread. This way it caught the attention of the people involved
I stand corrected it was 6 but once I realised she was not up for flirting I backed off straight away. I had not long rejoined at that point and your relationship and her low self confidence was completely unknown to me. I apologise for stepping on toes but I was under the impression she was reciprocating to start.
WandA wrote:
naughtyboy wrote:
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
But they won't because... wait for it... they rely on people reporting it. A bit like how the police don't randomly knock at your once a week asking if everything is OK, they wait for people to call them. Forums are generally self moderating, they don't have someone reading every single post.
So the police never have cops on the beat controlling things and keeping order do they? Granted they rely heavily on the public reporting stuff but they also don't like people reporting every slight infringement and wasting police time.
Ecksvie wrote:
Good for you. I doubt whether the mods would have asked you to leave so I don't see how you're "defying" them by staying, but hey ho.
The defiance I was referring to was the fact that they had closed the subject down and I had re-opened it.
i never flirted with u so i dont know why u said that, anyway why would i flirt with u, ur nothing special and im with paul and only have eyes for him
I apologise I must have mis-read the situation. I think that you comment of me being nothing special though entirely inappropriate though since you have never seen me or taken the time to get to know me.
Seduced wrote:
And tonight, REally ISN'T the night to be winding me up!
Nobody is trying to wind you up. I have the right to respond though and I have apologised regarding my actions towards your OH. I really don't see your problem now.
In your opinion maybe but that was closed before I had chance to respond and defend myself so this was my only course of action. I'm sorry you don't like it but I'm not here to please you
I stand corrected it was 6 but once I realised she was not up for flirting I backed off straight away. I had not long rejoined at that point and your relationship and her low self confidence was completely unknown to me. I apologise for stepping on toes but I was under the impression she was reciprocating to start.
WandA wrote:
naughtyboy wrote:
I think its a case that some people have appointed themselves the LH Police and are going around issuing justice. Just let it be and if its wrong then the mods will pick it up.
But they won't because... wait for it... they rely on people reporting it. A bit like how the police don't randomly knock at your once a week asking if everything is OK, they wait for people to call them. Forums are generally self moderating, they don't have someone reading every single post.
So the police never have cops on the beat controlling things and keeping order do they? Granted they rely heavily on the public reporting stuff but they also don't like people reporting every slight infringement and wasting police time.
Ecksvie wrote:
Good for you. I doubt whether the mods would have asked you to leave so I don't see how you're "defying" them by staying, but hey ho.
The defiance I was referring to was the fact that they had closed the subject down and I had re-opened it.
i never flirted with u so i dont know why u said that, anyway why would i flirt with u, ur nothing special and im with paul and only have eyes for him
I apologise I must have mis-read the situation. I think that you comment of me being nothing special though entirely inappropriate though since you have never seen me or taken the time to get to know me.
Seduced wrote:
And tonight, REally ISN'T the night to be winding me up!
Nobody is trying to wind you up. I have the right to respond though and I have apologised regarding my actions towards your OH. I really don't see your problem now.
ok im sorry i said what i said, but never say i flirted with u coz i didnt, u tried flirting with me and saying stuff that made me uncomfortableExternal Media
